I guess I just wanted to vent more than anything here.
I sold my place beginning of the year and the plan is moving in to my parents temporary while I look for a new place. Then my dad's sudden passing, followed by Covid. It ended my stay at home is extended as my mom now needs help.
At home, there are me and my two other siblings and I am the only one working. While I am able to work from home, I have a demanding job where I work 10 hours a day and many days without breaks and lunch is kinda eat while you work. During the week, I also block off time during work to help my mom shower in the morning. I have to say, it can be very stressful some days. I also provide some financial help to the family.
My sister stays up at night to care for mom's night time bathroom assistance. She goes to bed around 8 in the morning and wakes up at 3 in the afternoon. Sometimes she will cook or go out to pick up some groceries, if she feels like it. I offer to do dishes and laundry. However my sister constantly complains that I am not doing enough at home and will constantly leave work for me to do in the evening.
My brother will do most grocery, cook and care for mom.
I feel unfair but keep quiet to avoid confrontation, hoping to move out as soon as there is a fix for Covid next year.
What bothers me a lot is the poo issue. As mom gets older, she has diarrhea quite often and everytime my sister will excuse herself from it and I ended up have to clean the dirty clothes. I don't want to complain but this is one thing that Really Really bothers me. I know it is not mom's fault to have a bad stomach but I have a hard time cleaning! ! I feel bad of feeling this way but the more it happens, the more frustrated I get.
I don't know if it is bad, I decided to throw away her dirty clothes and replace with new ones. But my mom is a very sensitive person and she only likes her briefs which they no longer available and my mom's expectation is for me and my sister to clean it.
Many days, I just want to escape and go stay with my BF.. but I feel guilty of leaving now, esp with the Covid situation we are all dealing with and mom really could use the extra help...have I also mentioned that mom and my sister do not get along?
Dont think there is any solutions to this .. just need to vent... thank you for listening/reading.