Cargiving is HARD. Plain and simple. Whether you're doing it in your own home (the hardest, I would think) or you have the "help" of a facility... it's NOT for the faint of heart.
It's official... I'm faint of heart, and sometimes I just want to give up. I've been to hell and back twice trying to figure out what works best for Dad while feeling halfway content with my choice of care all while breaking my neck to pay for it all.
Well, the SH** has hit the fan with the facility near my house. I haven't shared this, but I spend an average of two workdays a week going back and forth with the VA on this whole fiduciary mess.
There's a thread about it somewhere, but it should be criminal for them to treat honest people this way. They can NOT get it together. Anyway, during the month that the appointed fiduciary supposedly took care of Dad's bills, the Assisted Living Facility didn't get the money.
I nearly fell out out my chair when I saw the bill with the overdue balance of $3,920 plus late fees and the other nickle and dime nonsense they charged me. I also have received a NOTICE OF DISCHARGE for nonpayment. So... I have spent the last 3 hours trying to track down what happened to the check, and since no one knows where it is, I have to wait for a stop payment to be issued, receive a paper check from the VA (minus the stop payment fee), deposit the check and write the ALF the check that was issued on 5/1/2018 (according to the fiduciary) that the ALF never received.
...and you ask why I'm such a control freak. Had I never had to unwillingly delegate this responsibility to someone else, it would have been DONE.
I understand why the process is in place to monitor what happens to a disabled vet's funds, but the amount of stress and anguish I've had to endure since April from the VA has NOT made any of this any easier.
Is this EVER going to end????