Thank you your suggestions are right on. Did you ever know what to do but you don’t do it?

Click on the poster's name, which should be in blue. There is a box under "Post a Message For" where you write your message, and then check the box to the right of the massage to make it private.

Staff, to private message on this site, you click on the screen name of the person you wish to write. You will see a box where you can write. If you want your message to be private then you click on the [x] just above the message area that says "Private Message ?".

You can also include a "hug", which is at the bottom left of the message area. Lot of interesting hug photos to choose from.

Then at the bottom right of the message area, you will see in orange "Post Message", click on that.

Anyway, that is how it is with the old format which I still use. Not sure if it is the same on the "new format".

Hi Staffbull,
To send someone a private message,go to the name of the person you want to contact and pressunder it,so the name is underlined and wait a second and that person's profile page will show up.Then be sure to put a check in the little box that lets you make your message private.Then write ,choose a hug if you want to,and press post.

Dear Staffbull18,

To answer your question about knowing what to do but actually having to do it. That is a hard one. I think we all struggle with that one to a degree. I just came back from the doctor and she said I had high blood pressure. I know I have to eat well, sleep enough and get more exercise. I guess knowing and doing are two different things. I tell myself to get up and get on with it, but sometimes its easier not to.

With taking care of my parents, I always thought my father should have stopped smoking ages ago but like he told me, it was none of my business. Then he had his stroke. By then, I knew he should eat better, take his meds and get more exercise, but in reality, I let him be. After his passing I really hated myself. I felt like I knew what needed to be done to keep him going but in reality, I didn't do it as well as I hoped.

I hope you can make the best decision you can.

I know the others have given great advice on how to message others on the forum.

Staffbull, how are you doing? What’s the latest? We all have things we know we need to do. I know my husband needs to go into a nursing home. But, that would probably be the most traumatic experience of my life. I could not stay in my home or keep my pets. Our house will not sell and would have to go into forclosure. My husband would not survive in a Medicaid facility in a small room with a stranger. So yes, dear one, we all have things we should do and don’t. Let us know how you’re doing! Sending peace and love, and many hugs too.