My 96 yr old mom has lived with me for the last 13 years. After a fall 2 yrs ago it was determined that she could no longer be left alone so I cut back on my working hrs and hired a caregiver for 16 hrs a week. However I am still finding it too difficult to do on my own. I have many siblings, 4 of whom live no more than 10 min. away. They are free to travel, spend time with grandkids and socialize. Most make a point of dropping in unannouced, once a week for an hr., but with no notice given I cant use that time to do more than make a quick trip to the store. I put my moms name on a list for a beautiful, new nh 2 yrs ago and Ive been told her name is now at the top of the list. Whenever Ive mentioned nursing homes in the past my mom always just smiled and said if she couldnt stay with me she would just move in with one of my sister.....they wont take her! They have suggested I just tell her I am moving, take her to the nursing home and pretend its our new apt. Mom does have some short term memory loss but she is well aware of her surroundings and will certainly know she was duped! She is always pleasent, and uncomplaining and I hate to tell her the only reason she cant live with me is the lack of support from her other children. I am heartbroken and so incredably sad for my mom, but I really really need my life back. Any suggestions on how to tell her.....the time is coming soon.