After her stroke in 2010, Mom lived with my sister for a while, and then my husband and I moved from VA to FL, changing jobs, so she could move in with us. It's been rough. Mom had a stroke and her tendency to let others do things for her has only intensified. She has some vision problems. She has only her Soc Security. If she'd had her own house, she could have stayed there, even with her issues, but it was foreclosed.
We have reached the end of our rope and need to find an alternative. She has a friend who has asked her to live with him. Or a family member might have a condo she can stay in rent free (but she would need to be on food stamps, etc.). How do I tell Mom she needs to move out? I'll help with arrangements. I have probably carried her all this time, doing way more for her than was necessary. It is probably why we are burned out. We don't feel comfortable living in our own tiny home. We have to have serious discussions outside or away from home.
I don't feel guilt about making this decision. But I don't know how to tell Mom without us sounding to her like selfish monsters.