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Hi my name is Cary, I took care of dad for 5 year he passed way last year can anyone help me please.

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Cary thanks for replying hun - look you are exhausted, take veronicas advice

I found a site called needhelppayingbills and this comes from that site:

Florida Area Agency on Aging senior assistance programs.

The Florida Department of Elder of Affairs runs a number of programs for people who are 60 years of age or older. Resources provided can address a number of needs that may be more unique or common to seniors. Examples of some of the services provided or referred to can include utility bill help from EHEAP, free food, information on health care and insurance, transportation, and much more. Below are more details on the Florida Department of Elder of Affairs programs and resources.

Utility and cooling bill assistance can be provided from the Emergency Home Energy Assistance for the Elderly Program (EHEAP). Any household that has at least one member over 60 years of age, who is facing a crisis, and who meets income guidelines may qualify for financial assistance for paying their energy bills.

Emergencies that EHEAP can address may be from a shut off notice, lack of fuel, or disconnection of utilities. The state of Florida program can provide cash for paying cooling, air conditioning, or other utility bills. While funding may vary, in some cases up to $600 can be paid out to seniors. All funds paid out are made directly to your utility company and not to the applicant.

Vouchers may also be provided to seniors. These can be used to buy fans, portable heaters, or blankets. Additional aid can pay for the repair or cooling or heating equipment, or for reconnection fees. To apply for the Emergency Home Energy Assistance for the Elderly Program, dial 1-800-963-5337, or stop by your local Area Agency on Aging office.

Information and referrals is offered from Elder Helpline. Learn about elder services, government and public assistance, Medicare, free clinics, and much more.

Health Promotion and Wellness Initiatives are offered for seniors in Florida. These include disease prevention seminars, evidence-based programs, health workshops/seminars, and other related physical activities such as health fairs.

Programs are developed to educate both seniors and their caregivers, to increase awareness about issues related to the health of elder Floridians, and to also deliver effective interventions and information on medical care to make a noticeable difference in elders’ health.
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Cary as I said I am a Brit so the others will be offering the very best advice. You are clearly panicking though so just stop for a moment and take 5 very slow deep breaths in .... and out very slowly let the calmness come upon you - you need to be able to focus - we know you are asking for help not money. How old are you honey?
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Yes, call your Mom's caseworker. (@medi-Cal)
Medicare can give you the number to cal for in home supportive services.
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I do not want money I want someone who could help me with my mom who is 78 year old. My dad passed way last year of heart failure. I need someone who could help me shower her and take her to the doctors appt. I am overwhlem
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Cary got to Social services and see if they can help with food stamps, electicity bills and maybe she is eligible for Medcaid as well as Medicare.
now you dad has passed away Mom should still get some of his social security.
If your brother is sick is he on disability or applying for it.
Next go to your local health dept and tell them your story as they may be able to send a nurse out.
This forum is for advice and support so no one can actually send you money.
Can any of the relatives help you in the evenings and at week ends?
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PAIN SHOTS OR INJECTIONS
Depending on the diagnosis, there are briefly two kinds of pain shots.
1) pain meds which should work immediately.
2) steroid/cortisone type shots that can improve pain over time, but may not act immediately. Did the doctors write an Rx for pain pills, have you picked them up?
There are other shots, such as those which would block the nerves, etc. But that is not what she has been given, right? Can she walk?
How long has she had this pain, what is the diagnosis?
If she doesn't tell you, if you can't go in with her to the doctor, then you cannot help her, no wobder you would be overwhelmed.
ONLY ANSWER WHAT YOU ARE ABLE, TAKE YOUR TIME.
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Cary, what language do you speak, what language are you most comfortable with?
Maybe someone on this forum speaks that language.
Did you know, when calling Medi-Cal, they have many languages to choose from, or you can ask for an interpreter. Do you need an interpreter, or are you understanding what we are typing here to you? Be patient, it will take a little time to get to know you and what you need to get help.
Don't worry, everyone here fully understands when someone says: HELP ME PLEASE!
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OK. "Offers of help would cost $15/ hr. "
If Mom is on Medicaid, which you stated, she would qualify for IHSS hours to come into the home and help, free to you. Contact the MediCal worker/Dept. Of Social Services where you live.
IHHS= In Home Supportive Services who should send out a social worker to interview your mom. If they don't come soon enough or if it is an emergency, call Adult Protective Services or 911.
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It would also help to flesh out your profile, including where you live. Some people here may be aware of specific help in certain areas.
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Cary, First, tell us how you are.
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OK, Seeet. We can help walk you through this with enough information, if you can try not to panic. It seems you are overwhelmed, but an experienced caregiver from when your Dad was ill?
Tell us what illness your brother has.
As for Mom, in pain: If you cannot get her into the shower yourself, take a hot water filled container near her bed, using a washcloth, give her a sponge bath. The warmth from the cloth will help body and back pain, and help her to calm down and rest.
You mention financial problems and low income. Supplemental food from a food bank can help you manage limited finances.
What else do you need right now? Is there an emergency?
Are you okay?
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Seeet, contact your local council on aging to see what programs they might offer in your area. Go to the blue bar near the top of the page.... click on CAREGIVER SUPPORT.... now click on FIND AGENCIES ON AGING... click on your State, now click on your City/County.
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Right now she is a lot pain, I took her to the doctor.she said the doctor did not do anything and the doctors give a shot of the pain.another thing is she do not want any help from another people,but I need someone to help me this is to much for me I really for not what to do. Please help
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Yes I have talked to many people they are ask me or 15hr. I do not have any money my mother as medicaid the blue and white card, I have family but they are work so I am lone with her and also a sick brother who I am take care of. I took take of my dad for 4years and 7 months till he passed way last year. I need help like shower her take her to the doctors appt .can some help me pase
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Cary you need to pad this out a little hun - what do you need help with? Does mum have dementia or other problems? Is there anyone near to help you have you any family? Does your mum have any insurances at all? Have you spoken to anyone thus far?
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