Cary as I said I am a Brit so the others will be offering the very best advice. You are clearly panicking though so just stop for a moment and take 5 very slow deep breaths in .... and out very slowly let the calmness come upon you - you need to be able to focus - we know you are asking for help not money. How old are you honey?
Cary you need to pad this out a little hun - what do you need help with? Does mum have dementia or other problems? Is there anyone near to help you have you any family? Does your mum have any insurances at all? Have you spoken to anyone thus far?
Cary got to Social services and see if they can help with food stamps, electicity bills and maybe she is eligible for Medcaid as well as Medicare. now you dad has passed away Mom should still get some of his social security. If your brother is sick is he on disability or applying for it. Next go to your local health dept and tell them your story as they may be able to send a nurse out. This forum is for advice and support so no one can actually send you money. Can any of the relatives help you in the evenings and at week ends?
Yes I have talked to many people they are ask me or 15hr. I do not have any money my mother as medicaid the blue and white card, I have family but they are work so I am lone with her and also a sick brother who I am take care of. I took take of my dad for 4years and 7 months till he passed way last year. I need help like shower her take her to the doctors appt .can some help me pase
Seeet, contact your local council on aging to see what programs they might offer in your area. Go to the blue bar near the top of the page.... click on CAREGIVER SUPPORT.... now click on FIND AGENCIES ON AGING... click on your State, now click on your City/County.
OK, Seeet. We can help walk you through this with enough information, if you can try not to panic. It seems you are overwhelmed, but an experienced caregiver from when your Dad was ill? Tell us what illness your brother has. As for Mom, in pain: If you cannot get her into the shower yourself, take a hot water filled container near her bed, using a washcloth, give her a sponge bath. The warmth from the cloth will help body and back pain, and help her to calm down and rest. You mention financial problems and low income. Supplemental food from a food bank can help you manage limited finances. What else do you need right now? Is there an emergency? Are you okay?
Cary, what language do you speak, what language are you most comfortable with? Maybe someone on this forum speaks that language. Did you know, when calling Medi-Cal, they have many languages to choose from, or you can ask for an interpreter. Do you need an interpreter, or are you understanding what we are typing here to you? Be patient, it will take a little time to get to know you and what you need to get help. Don't worry, everyone here fully understands when someone says: HELP ME PLEASE!
I do not want money I want someone who could help me with my mom who is 78 year old. My dad passed way last year of heart failure. I need someone who could help me shower her and take her to the doctors appt. I am overwhlem
now you dad has passed away Mom should still get some of his social security.
If your brother is sick is he on disability or applying for it.
Next go to your local health dept and tell them your story as they may be able to send a nurse out.
This forum is for advice and support so no one can actually send you money.
Can any of the relatives help you in the evenings and at week ends?
Tell us what illness your brother has.
As for Mom, in pain: If you cannot get her into the shower yourself, take a hot water filled container near her bed, using a washcloth, give her a sponge bath. The warmth from the cloth will help body and back pain, and help her to calm down and rest.
You mention financial problems and low income. Supplemental food from a food bank can help you manage limited finances.
What else do you need right now? Is there an emergency?
Are you okay?
Maybe someone on this forum speaks that language.
Did you know, when calling Medi-Cal, they have many languages to choose from, or you can ask for an interpreter. Do you need an interpreter, or are you understanding what we are typing here to you? Be patient, it will take a little time to get to know you and what you need to get help.
Don't worry, everyone here fully understands when someone says: HELP ME PLEASE!
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