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Hi, so I was just checking in on my 82 year old mom on the phone and she has just gotten out of the hospital for UTI and pneumonia. A stubborn, non compliant patient— you know all of the things.
So I suspect her UTI is back because she seems confused, agitated, and at one point was mocking me in a sarcastic tone because I told her I’d like her to get home health to do a dip stick on her tomorrow.
She claims she knows for a fact that she doesn’t have a UTI because she just knows because she has no symptoms (you know, aside from her combativeness and hostility and inability to have a normal conversation about it on the phone).
Seniors can have UTIs and not know it, correct? Thanks.

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The last few years of my mom's life was filled with one UTI after another. She was ALWAYS asymptomatic. It wasn't until she would get sick enough to start vomiting that she would call me and have me take her to the hospital. I began to recognize the situation before she would. So, yes, UTIs can go without any symptoms.
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I've learned the hard way....go to the Urgent Care clinic FIRST, not the ER. Most take walk-ins, open until 8pm. Stanford has a fabulous, well-equipped Urgent Care clinic 2 miles away. Never seen more than 3-4 people waiting.

They will take your vitals, a quick sample (blood, urine), ask your symptoms, and wait for lab results, while Mom waits on a comfy bed in a private curtained area, where you can wait with her in your own chair. Within an hour or less, they get labs back and send Mom home after they call in her RX. I pick mine up on the way home. DONE.

If they suspect worse (heart attack, stroke), they will order an ambulance to take you to the ER, where you will bypass the wait list and the Doctors will be ready to jump in when you arrive, just like TV. My retired Cardiac Surgery RN sister always told me, "Don't go to the ER unless you can't stop the bleeding yourself." Go to Urgent Care, who will do a few quick tests and give you a RX. They will know if it is serious or not, and tell you "Go to your Doctor tomorrow, we'll send over our summary." I avoid the hospital entirely if possible.

Always a Doctor on Call in an Urgent Care, or RN Practitioner. Not the ridiculous waiting either. Just bring a drink and snack if you missed dinner. Takes less than an hour, and less exposure to dangerously sick people. Covered by Medicare.
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memyselfandeye Feb 1, 2026
Some so called urgent care clinics here require preregistration via an online portal, and the delay can be more than a day. So, what does "urgent" mean? And some urgent care clinics here do not take lab samples, but will send you to a clinical lab across town. Others will take samples, but send them out to a clinical lab across town, usually one time per day for all patients. Pick up thw prescription on the way home? Most pharmacies here will take most of a day to process a prescription, and often the medication will be out of stock and have to wait until the next day (or the next) to get the medication. Always a doctor or NP on duty? More often a clueless PA.

This is not an isolated small town. It is Spokane, WA a mid-sized city considered in Eastern Washington to be a medical center with two medical schools and 4 large hospitals.
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She could be having the symptoms just not the ones she expects. It's going to be hard to do what needs to be done which is a clean catch urine test. The problem is that if she isn't treated with the right antibiotics she can develop sepsis and die.

You might have to call an ambulance, describe that this is what happens when she has an infection and ask them to take her to the ER. Can you get to her home and see if her urine smells bad? That's the big clue sometimes.
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Two things that can tip you off are cloudy urine and an odor. But it's true, Seniors especially with dementia won't always recognize the symptoms.
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My 94 year old father has very frequent UTIs without the usual symptoms. We have to test monthly. If he has symptoms it is strong smelling cloudy urine, and/or cognitive impairment.
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If M had a UTI when she was younger, she probably also had a lot of pain (I thought I was going to die with one when I was in my twenties). Now she doesn’t have pain, so she thinks she doesn’t have one. Tell her that pain is often absent with UTIs after menopause, and then you can’t pick it like when you are younger.
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Yes, that's possible. I went to Urgent Care for HBP last week and they did lab work including a UA. Surprise! I had a UTI that had caused absolutely no symptoms. I was put on Ceftin (antibiotic) for 5 days and hope it's gone. (I'm 89.)
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southernwave Jan 29, 2026
Thank you. I also hope it’s gone!
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What you need to fo is get her back to the hospital and gave them do a culture. My daughter, nurse, says they use a broad spectrum antibiotic. Does not always clear up the UTI. Doing a culture will tell them what kind of bacteria is causing the problem. Then the proper antibiotic can be given buy IV. Then its trying to keep it from coming back. Mom should be drinking lots of water. D-Mannose has been suggested on this forum. My Mom took cranberry tablets and a probiotic.
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southernwave Jan 29, 2026
Thank you. I am hoping a dip stick will lead to needing a culture because my mom has zero intention of going to the doctor or back to the hospital right now.

Though I also know a dip stick can be false negative in elders.

I live hours away so it’s up to my local sister (who abandoned me once mom was admitted so it’s not like I’m leaving it up to her. It was all on me the week she was in the hospital) to keep an eye on her. I suspect we will have to wait it out until she gets sick enough to care.

I also know this could be the beginning of the end. I wanted her to go to LTAC or skilled nursing to fully recover but she would not allow that thought process.

I appreciate you chiming in.
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I’ve personally had two UTI’s minus symptoms, only found out when something else happened
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southernwave Jan 29, 2026
Thank you.
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I got in touch with my friend who is a hospice and palliative care doctor and this is what she said (in regard to can she have a UTI with all of these antibiotics):

”A UTI can always be in play. Especially if she had a catheter at the hospital. Also, some antibiotics cause delirium as well.”
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Yes , she may have a UTI and not know it . She may have even picked up MRSA or VRE or some other antibiotic resistant hospital acquired infection .
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waytomisery Jan 29, 2026
Sorry redundant , it didn’t post at first .
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100% yes they can. I'm being treated for one now. No burning, no pain, fever, nothing....I just started growling and snapping like a tiger.

You don't get rid of UTIs so quick without correct testing and medications. Call her Homehealth RN, or send a text. Trust me, they will handle your stubborn Mom.
Ask Mom where her medical degree is from. Geeze!
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southernwave Jan 29, 2026
I really thought she was going to repeat my sentence in a “I know you are but what am I” type of mocking tone.

Toxic. At the mere mention of getting home health to check her urine.

Thank you for sharing your experience— it helps. Did you know you were prickly?
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Yes , she could have a UTI . She could have picked up MRSA , VRE , Pseudomonas A , or some other lovely hospital acquired infection .
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Correct. But maybe it's the pneumonia infection that may be causing the symptoms? It can also cause sepsis.
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southernwave Jan 29, 2026
Yes, they did the sepsis protocol on her and she was admitted to ICU for a few days (I’m so exhausted I can’t remember if it as 2 or 3 days) after getting stuck in the ER for 36 hours because the hospital was full with flu patients.

She was on IV Vanc and then Zozyn (7 days) and is now on a z pack so I’m just trying figure out what’s going on— uti, relapse, exhaustion and then if it’s all of the above or none of the above.

Yall know how this is. Just trying to work my way through trying to figure out what to do. At least home health is going there tomorrow morning.

It might not be a UTI with all of the antibiotics but then again, so many things are antibiotic resistant now…..

Thanks
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