Can I sue my step-sisters and granddaughter for not respecting me?

No, you cannot sue them. Why not call the adult step-children and ask what can you and your sister do to help them take care of your father, their step-father.

It is NOT their step father! Can't sue...okay. How about restraining order?

The house is in whose both names? That's pretty important as to who has rights to be on the property.

Um, probably not.

Wouldn't the most simple solution be for your father to tell his stepdaughters, "Could you please leave for a little while, so I can visit privately with my daughter"? It is his house and unless he is totally incompetent and has a guardian he gets to say who is in his house. What would you sue over?

I am very, very sorry that you don't have a good relationship with these people who were so important in your father's life. Bringing up the "death do us part" thing sounds like you blame these women for the end of your father's marriage. Is that realistic?

Could you possibly start over, meet with these women, agree that you all want what is best for your father, and offer to cooperate with them? That would be extremely hard, I'm sure, but it would be wonderful.

My two sons and my husband's three daughters got along splendidly, and all 5 were involved in his care. Now that he is gone they continue to get along, socialize with each other, invite each other to life milestones, etc. A blended family can be an opportunity to have more people in your circle of love. I am so sorry it isn't like that for you.

What do you mean that he is not their step-father? They are the children of his late wife, yes? Anyway, it hardly matters whether they are cousins or family friends or fellow church members. Your father apparently is OK with them being there.

It doesn't sound like they are preventing you from visiting your dad. You may be able to get a court order if that were the case. But they merely refuse to leave if you show up when they are there. I doubt there is a law against that.

By the way, what does paying for the burial have to do with anything? Just curious why you'd bring that up.

seekingtopro, A restraining order can backfire on you. You don't own the property and have yet to tell us who does.

Their mother was a homewrecker. She never let my father to see me or my sister since they got married. They got married without us. And she spoiled her grandchildren and great grandchildren. Nothing for us, dad's grandchildren or his great grand children. He never knew or met them because of her! Now that family is trying to push us out of picture because they hoped that Dad will think we don't care about him and thinks that they cares about him. They sure had him fooled! I just want that family OUT! Oh one thing I would like to add.... they didn't bring him to hospital when he complained about blurry vision. They went on their own thing as they please. My Dad caretaker's? Yeah they are lousy!

My dad and uncle paid for her burial. The stepdaughters thinks that they are entitled to the estate and I don't think they get that percentage. They must pay back my dad and my uncle for the burial. Plus their grand daughter and her two small kids are living there free at my dad 's expenses. He is paying for three or four people at his house. That is NOT caretaker role. Okay...

My dad's wife was always sick. She should have known better. Life insurance, burial, etc. I told her many times to get those set up! All she does was gambling! I hate that woman and her family!

The property belongs to my dad now. That's why the step children felt threaten because their mom died first!

Seekping2topro, you wrote in your original message "He is my father! They have their own father. " Therefore, your father is in fact their step-father, since he was married to their mother.

Try extending the olive branch... work together as a team to help your Dad.

Curious, how did you and your sister allow your step-sisters keep you both out of the family life? Apparently these step-daughters care very deeply about your Dad if they are still part of his life and being a caregiver. And it sounds like they are allowing you to visit your Dad, I don't think it should matter if they are there in the house or not. Apparently they have their reasons.

Oh, I see. This is really about money. Of course.

Your father MARRIED this woman. Of course he would pay for the burial. Who do you think should have paid for it? Why didn't he take out insurance on her?

Ok, so we are not sure who was given the house in the Will or if she even had one. So that will be hung up in probate for a while. But we do know they live there. That means they can keep you out (tenant's rights) and you cannot ask them to leave at any time. So if you got a restraining order against them, you would have to stay away from the house.
Be very careful what you say and do when you are there. Take some anti-anxiety meds before you go there. If it gets ugly, kiss Dad and leave.

Seeking2topro, your step-mother is gone. Can't you and your sister start from today working together with your step-sisters to help your Dad? Or would you rather rehash what everyone did in the past for the next 10 or 20 years?

How long ago did your father marry this homewrecker?

Not touching this one with a ten foot pole! Wow.

Seeking, I sympathize that you hate your step siblings and feel your stepmother isolated your father from his children.

But unless your father is deemed incompetent by a doctor, then your father can do as he pleases with his life and his resources. If he wants to disinherit you and leave everything to step siblings, he can do that.

I'm sorry that the relationship with step siblings is so bad, but for the sake of having a relationship with your father (IF that is what you really want), why not try to plan a few visits with him? If he wants to see you, he has the ability to do that, yes?

It amazes me at how much emotional energy people can invest in hating siblings and step-siblings and cousins and cousin's cousins. Whew! I would just go visit your father if that is what he and you both want. He is not a well man, though, so I would check the hatred at the door. I don't let him off the hook for not seeing you and your siblings. I have a feeling that he is where you need to be practicing your forgiveness, no matter how much it hurts to face facts. Your step sisters didn't keep your father from you.

Excuse me -- they're not your step sisters. They are your dad's wife's daughters from a previous marriage.

Dad married this homewrecker since 1989. He just walked out on us and married this woman and he helped her raised those two step daughters and now the grand kids and great grand kids at my dad expenses! He has been paying for them! He is a dumbass! He allowed them to walk all over him from day one!

She died on March 25th, 2016. I am so happy that she died!

When their mother was dying. She wanted to die at home. We respected them and let them spend time with her at Dad house. She died on March 25 2016. I feel nothing when she died. I truly hated her!

When I called Dad he was crying to me and said he has no body! So I bought the first plane ticket costed me $300. Then he called me back and said don't come down because they are already camped at Dad's house. They have three own husbands and home close by. They feel the need to sleep there. So I didn't fly down to Florida from New York. Bye bye my $300 tickets!

* their own husbands

I just washed my hands. I am done with Dad! His last moments will be with them. I will not go to his funeral. I am exhausted.

To jeannegibbs, yes their real motives are money. They only stick around because they felt that they are entitled to portion of dad's estate. They never cared about Dad. They just walk all over him.

jeannegibbs- that's why I mentioned that Dad and uncle paid for her burial. She knew she wil have short life. She didn't bother gertting life insurance or anything for her burial. Dad should have just get her creamated! Save his retirement money fir himself! He complains to me that he can not retire because of credit card debts and still need to pay cost of living! His and their cost of living!

My dad is less than 8 th grade education. He dropped out school at young age. One of Step sister is para- legal. She is swooping in already! I hate her too!

I'm going to dig around to see if there is many loans against Dad's house. It is a public records that I can access to. I have to protect myself because I will not pay for these loan took out by them and step sister's when my dad passes away. I don't like surprises. I prefer plan ahead. I tried to get my dad to let me know who POA and health proxy when he got stroke. I think good time to talk about it now while he survived his first stroke. I know that once you got stroke and there will be more later but worse that he will not be able to talk or do anything. He is 75 yrs old. I get it that I am not wanted for no reason. I'm backing off and leave him alone with that family. I would say my father died in 1989.