Laeric, please understand that no one can "assume" you into the role of caregiver. Hopefully your father didn't extract a promise from you to not ever put him in a nursing home. If so you are in no way obligated to attempt to carry out this promise as you'd have no way to know the rigors it entails. If you want I have a checklist I created for new (or "sudden") caregivers. Just PM me if interested. I'm also an only child managing care for 4 elders. I wish you all the best and peace in your heart as you labor to help your dad and figure things out.
Stay on the Forum site and I am certain you will come up with specific questions that we might help with, and welcome. Also be aware that care topics above will help. Go to the timeline and access topics by alphabet. Also watch everything you can on youtube of Teepa Snow's videos. Google all you can. We welcome you and do know we are ALL confused by the maze, and attempt her to help one another bump our way through.
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Also be aware that care topics above will help. Go to the timeline and access topics by alphabet.
Also watch everything you can on youtube of Teepa Snow's videos. Google all you can.
We welcome you and do know we are ALL confused by the maze, and attempt her to help one another bump our way through.