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My stepsister no longer keeps calling my mom for money and somehow has found out her unlisted number. What do I do. Do I change my moms number or get a restraining order so she cant call. I think I have her email address. Do I maybe email her and tell her to stop calling my mom for money. Her father has been dead for 31/2 years. Three years ago my mom gave her money that was her dads and she spent it all. Now they want more. My mom doesn't have it anymore.

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Well she may be your stepsister but she is also your mothers daughter, it is extremely difficult to have an opinion when you are getting information from one side, I will suggest that a better communication level is achieved between the both of you.

As for children asking parents for money it is quite a common problem, I guess that decision should be made by the parent involve, if her mother no longer has the capacity, well there is no longer a problem. It is just sad for her that she has a daughter with financial problems.
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I would change any phone number the woman has access to and not respond to any letters or emails.
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Change the unlisted number, or get a phone that will allow you to block calls.
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Take the above suggestions and also assign a POA for your mom. That person's name should also be on the account.
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dont shut her out.....invite her in for a sweet and loving chat or visit or whatever. I think blocking her phone calls or changing number is cruel . I agree with colinberry1. This is where we are caregivers have to be loving and compassionate but steadfast and firm and protective by simply telling the truth to stepdaughter .....in all of the finance and credit classes I have taken.....the financial reality is this....if you want more money or a raise $$$ in life....you have to spend less or make more. period. be sweet and kind.
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I'm assuming with this answer that your mother is not close to this person. It sounds like an elder abuse situation. If she won't stop at your request, then turn her over to the authorities. She's your step-sister, right, not your mother's child, but your father's child by a previous marriage? She has absolutely no rights if this is the case. Give her a warning then take action.
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Well I am a little lost here, is your step sister your mothers daughter? if so she sounds as if she could be the elders daughter, so that would be a totally different ball game.

I have too agree with debracford the answer to life is to learn to care for each other.
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she isnt mu mothersd daughter. My mother married her dad.
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And her dada is dead has been for 3 years.
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Pami, in a similar situation, we certainly made Mom available to visitors, but we were very careful to make sure Mom did not have her checkbook or an ATM card at the ALF and limited cash, usually $40 in singles. We learned the hard way, because if mom had $600, she spent it all in a month, or if she had $40 it would last the same amount of time. We knew there was a financial hole someplace and there really is no way to spend $600 at a facility. Funny how those frequent visits become less frequent when the well runs dry.
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