My stepsister keeps calling my Mom for money. Any advice?

I think the reality is money has a habit to go missing no matter what scenario you are in, I say this because when my mother-in-law was admitted into Chase farm Hospital Sister Bernard from Enfield convent, a friend of my mother-in-law was with her on admission she had a habit of carrying her cash with her, her £700 was taken from her and put in the safe, but on discharge the money and her marriage ring had gone missing, we was told by Sister Barnard, we had enough on our hands then to pursue the hospital for what had happened. Well the reality is whom can you trust.

When she calls hang up. Or better yet, get caller ID. Have your mother write a letter saying she has no more money (if she can, as you do not say if your mother has dementia). She is a nuisance, but don't let her calling upset you so much. Just hang up.

Pami, in a similar situation, we certainly made Mom available to visitors, but we were very careful to make sure Mom did not have her checkbook or an ATM card at the ALF and limited cash, usually $40 in singles. We learned the hard way, because if mom had $600, she spent it all in a month, or if she had $40 it would last the same amount of time. We knew there was a financial hole someplace and there really is no way to spend $600 at a facility. Funny how those frequent visits become less frequent when the well runs dry.

And her dada is dead has been for 3 years.

she isnt mu mothersd daughter. My mother married her dad.

Well I am a little lost here, is your step sister your mothers daughter? if so she sounds as if she could be the elders daughter, so that would be a totally different ball game.

I have too agree with debracford the answer to life is to learn to care for each other.

I'm assuming with this answer that your mother is not close to this person. It sounds like an elder abuse situation. If she won't stop at your request, then turn her over to the authorities. She's your step-sister, right, not your mother's child, but your father's child by a previous marriage? She has absolutely no rights if this is the case. Give her a warning then take action.

dont shut her out.....invite her in for a sweet and loving chat or visit or whatever. I think blocking her phone calls or changing number is cruel . I agree with colinberry1. This is where we are caregivers have to be loving and compassionate but steadfast and firm and protective by simply telling the truth to stepdaughter .....in all of the finance and credit classes I have taken.....the financial reality is this....if you want more money or a raise $$$ in life....you have to spend less or make more. period. be sweet and kind.

call her and gently tell her to knock it off in polite terms of course..then block her number..she is taking advantage of your mother and apparently has no conscience
as to her actions..do not give out the new number if you do change it...good luck

Well she may be your stepsister but she is also your mothers daughter, it is extremely difficult to have an opinion when you are getting information from one side, I will suggest that a better communication level is achieved between the both of you.

As for children asking parents for money it is quite a common problem, I guess that decision should be made by the parent involve, if her mother no longer has the capacity, well there is no longer a problem. It is just sad for her that she has a daughter with financial problems.

I had the same problem with my sister. I had to tell her point blank that my mother doesn't have the money to support her and her adult college attending daughter. My mother passed away recently and what a surprise my lazy stepsister and her daughter will be in for when they find out my mother redid her will excluding them.

Pam I have a cordless phone (Panasonic) and I can save then block any number I don't want calling back. When they try to call after I block their number it rings once and says blocked call.

she is calling for a friendly chat. She wants money. I am going to change my moms teephone number as soon as possible. I know who gave her the number my cousin and she was told not to do it.

First call the stepsister and tell her calmly that there is no more money, let alone money to which she has any claim.

Then, if she persists, suppressing the urge to visit her and give her such a slap, you can: block incoming calls to your mother's phone; change your mother's phone, and again if need be; or, if all else fails, consider taking advice on an injunction because this would by then amount to harassment.

I wonder, though. You are SURE the stepsister is not also calling your mother for a friendly chat, are you? It's not impossible.

You can try to find out who would not have known better than to give the unlisted number out, and fill them in on stepsister, and change it as many times as necessary.

Take the above suggestions and also assign a POA for your mom. That person's name should also be on the account.

Change the unlisted number, or get a phone that will allow you to block calls.

I would change any phone number the woman has access to and not respond to any letters or emails.