My elderly mother could not longer take care of my elderly stepfather (93) who has early stages of Alzheimers.. She put him in a Assisted Living fac. His kids, who hardly ever visited him before, didn't like all the money being paid in the facility, moved him out, to a fac closer to them. They got power of attorney and control his checkbook. My mother is essentially cut off. We fear that they will burn through all his money, then call my mother back and say, the money is gone, you have to use yours to care for him.
Any solution to this?
The checking account was in StepFather's name only? Not a joint account with your mother?
Can you fill in a few more details about how this situation came to be?
It could be that their motivation was to provide him with better care, good financial oversight, and more frequent visits. Or it could be they want to get their hands on his money. You know them; I don't.
I think that Mom should see an attorney about protecting her assets from the situation you fear.