We are concerned that she is not sharing any information about his condition. We offer to come and let her have a break but she says no. We want to be with our father and involved with his care. We asked for a meeting to discuss what the doctors are saying and she said that would be good, then the day of the meeting she said no. Do we need to get a lawyer to force a meeting and let us spend time with our father and his grandchildren together. What can we do? It is not about money because we have already told her that we would help pay for his care when necessary.