We had a very combative and unpleasant relationship. I don't feel like going to funeral. What to do? Don't want to be disrespectful but I remember the unpleasant encounters at daughter in laws funeral 2 years ago. Since then I have avoided them at all costs. I don't want to seem uncaring but do not want to be the reason why they get upset etc. My son let me know but is also somewhat isolated and has already moved on into another relationship since his wife's death. It's very awkward and distressing for me. Please advise.