Sibling dispute. Any advice?

We actually have a court hearing today on similar matter. While POA's have not been changed, sibling with POA's has been mismanaging assets and has never gone to the doc with Mom while I have provided 24/7 care for her in her home for more than three years. If POA's have been changed the attorney should have done a short test to determine if you Mom understood what she was doing. Though some lawyers will. You need an elder law attorney with a significant part of their practice litigation. I made this mistake worked with one attorney for about 6 months requesting financial reports of the trust. That was nearly two years ago. Sibling with POA's is responsible for keeping the books, yet has not done it or supplied them per instructions in the trust. Have you seen the POA's that you think were put in place? Maybe they do not exist. What has been your part in carrying out the duties designated to you by your Mom in the POA's?

The website AVVO may be helpful to find an elder law attorney with a significant part of their practice in litigation. I would think that first the attorney would request the POA's from sis. Determine whether they are valid anytime (standing) or if they become valid upon your Mom's incapacity (springing). Check you POA to determine whether there is a requirement that Mom is incapacitated prior to going into effect. If so, most will require that there are letters from two doctors stating Mom's incapacity. So many POA's do not understand the springing concept and will not carry out their responsibilities appropriately or lawfully.

If you truly are still POA then you are responsible for whats happening and could be held liable if money is misused. Get to any lawyer asap.

I would get to a elder care attorney and it may be possible to bring charges against you sister for spending and uprooting your mother if it only benefits her and not in the mother's best interest.

Good Luck.

PS: keep records/copies of all attempts at mediation with your sister.

.... and yes, Elder law is best.
If you have evidence of your sister mis-managing mum's funds raise it with them. (Do you think she's 'saving money' by putting mum in independant living place? It is fristrating when siblings who are not about for much of tge time make decisions based on how parents behave on their infrequent visits. It is a snapshot, not a realistic assessment.

I am just confused how she has 'co-erced' a dementia patient into overiding in place PoEs etc?
Don't attorneys in US have duty of care?
Seems very strange.

I would not have thought that any attorney would be able to change the in place PoA and Health PoA that were put in place whilst your mum was still able to make inforned decisions?

Where was your mum staying prior to your sister moving her?
If it was a home, your existing PoE etc would have been in place, so unless you were found to be incompetent, I strongly question why any attorney overturned this, or why the home released her?

Were you not seeing your mum regularly?
Were you not aware of your sister planning all this?
Could you not have got Adult Protection Services involved?

The whole point of PoEs etc is that vulnerable people be protected. If you can find out who signed these new PoAs they should be asked why they overrode existing PoAs for someone clearly not compis mentis??

PoA is responsible for looking after her finances, so again, Adult Protection Services should be contacted.

This is very sad that siblings become so divided.
There are two sides to every story. Perhaps your sister disagreed with how you were looking after mum. Siblings can have very different ideas on care.

Mum needs to be close enough for at least one of you to visit. This does not make sense. Was the previous home clise to you? Was it good?

It can be exhausting. I hope you find peace somehow.

Is mom in CA or NC? You would have to file for Guardianship in the county where she is living now.