The lady I care for is in the later stages of Alzheimers. Numerous mornings she wakes with soiled diapers and refuses to get in shower. She will punch, hit, pinch, and try to bite. It is so stressful for us both. How do I deal with this? I am the only person who baths her.
I understand the fear of water and everything that goes with her not wanting to shower. Her violent behavior occurs randomly throughout our 9 1/2 hour day. She will throw drinks at me etc. It is getting worse. This behavior also occurs towards her husband. For an elderly lady, she is strong and my fear is that she'll hurt someone or her self.
We go on walks and for car rides to get out of the house. She sleeps very little and won't sit down when awake. It seems that medication would help her anxiety and agitation but her family doesn't think it's necessary. Her level of care has greatly increased and has become more difficult after 3 years. Any advice on what to do?