Should your parents visit their home after being gone for months?

NO! They will obsess and weep for days. OMG get that right out of your head. My SIL took mom to the house while we were cleaning it out, even though I told her not to. It took weeks to calm her down. Don't do it!!!

Absolutely not! It's one of the biggest challenges to get elders into care. If they have adjusted to their new surroundings the worst thing you could do would be to remind them of days gone by when they had some independence.

OMG That would be so cruel. Please don't. Put your self in their place. Have a get together somewhere that would be conventant for everyone.

I moved my parents from Wisconsin to my house in California so that I could take care of them. My mom had mild dementia and my dad had physical problems that made it impossible for him to continue to care for Mom and himself. We left the house just as it was and eight months later, at my dad's insistence, the three of us traveled back to their old home to finish cleaning it out and get it ready to sell. At first my mom did not recognize her old home, but after a few minutes, as she wandered around the rooms, things stared coming back to her. She was like a kid at Christmas opening up gifts! She said, "Oh, here are my dishes! Oh, these are my towels!" And it went on and on like that until she had walked through the entire house. Then she told me that she did not want to go back to California--that she didn't like it there. She was so happy to be back in her old environment and it broke my heart to know that remaining in Wisconsin in her beautiful home was no longer an option for her. She was sad when we had to leave, but, of course with the dementia, she did forget about it once we made the return trip. In answer to your question, I would say that it is better not to return someone with dementia to their old home.

Absolutely not! After 2.5n years in a lovely NH my mother still obsesses and grieves 24/7 for her old home.

No, don't do it. Perhaps you can have the gathering and then everyone head over to the nursing home and meet with your parents in one of the activity rooms or the dining room. Or better yet, take the parents out to eat as a group. Just don't take them home so they can spend the weeks drumming up old memories that will only make them unhappy.

I dont think this would be good for your parents my mom is in nh im making dinner and taking it in.

It will break your heart and theirs. You can't even imagine the sorrow. Please, please don't do this. I think a get together in the NH would go a long way in making them more comfortable and happy there.

No, that would be so very hard for them --- perhaps you can have the family get together that is someplace that is familiar to them - church, local hall, restaurant,
have the family bring lots of photos, stories of good times and lots of good cheer, have a wonderful time, share lots of memories and spare your parents and you the sadness of having to have them leave their home again.

No, don't do this. Do you even know if the nursing home consider it ok for them to go out? If you take them out even to another place that will get their hopes up about going home and be extremely let down when they don't.