I have been taking care of my parents since 2013. In 2023, my parents had to move. I had to go in debt to purchase a house. I ask my sister for help and she said no. My brother was strayed from me and punished my parents because he didn't want to be around me. While my sister goes on cruises, parties, out to eat and the beach, here I am. I lost my mom in 2023, then my brother shows up 3 days before she dies then him and his wife tried take over. Didn't happen. I want to know would it be awful of me to take them to court because we have law in my state where all children are responsible for care. They don't visit anyway so.........
If both parents are gone, sell the house, hopefully there is some equity. Get a nice apartment and start living your life.
You did not have to be your parents option. Your siblings did not feel they were and no law says they have to physically care for a parent. Filial laws are financial obligations and as said, many states have removed them from the books and the ones that haven't don't really inforce them.
I am sorry. I hope that you don't have much to do with them if you don't wish to. But I will be honest with you. I would not have taken on physical and/or financial care of my parents either. I was an RN. I would never have been capable of 24/7 in home care. I also feel it takes an entire lifetime to make ourselves "self-insured in age" to the extent we aren't dependent on family. That and a good job and good luck and good timing. You are responsible for the CHILDREN you bring into this world. Not to your parents.
I am truly sorry for your pain. It's time to move on and understand that you made your OWN choices and it isn't up to you to make choices for others.
Instead of seeking revenge, why not live well NOW and start taking cruises and relaxing? Living well is the best revenge, it's said. You'll always know that you went above and beyond for your dear parents, and can be proud of yourself and your efforts. Nobody can take that away from you, being a good daughter.
My condolences on the loss of your dear mom in 2023.
And you think what would happen if you did? How much money do you have? An attorney will want to know. Consult a lawyer to see where you stand!
Before you went into debt to purchase a house for your parents, did you consult an elder law attorney?
Filial responsibility laws are seldom if ever enforced; they are a throwback to the days before there was Medicaid to pay for care for the elderly.
I'm not sure I see where you would have the standing to sue your siblings; it's the state that enforces these laws when the state pays out monies that has been gifted away to adult children.