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Over Christmas my husband started to believe I left with out taking anything. Although we sleep in the same bed, he believes I am someone who came to help take care of him. A couple of times a week he tries to FaceTime his wife (me) I answer and show him it is me, but he is just confused. Now He says he wants to marry me. He said it again in front of our close friends tonight at a get together (he remembers them, just not me). They want to know if it would help if they performed a mock wedding for us? I am torn. Would it make my husband feel secure that I will stay with him? Or could it confuse his belief that his wife left him? Anyone face this situation?

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Your husband is suffering from Capgrass Syndrome, and marrying him again isn't going to change anything.
Please read up on Capgrass, and you will learn a whole lot. Probably more than you actually want to know, as it can be quite scary.
Several women in my caregivers support group had/have husbands who suffered/suffer from Capgrass Syndrome and it was/is very difficult for them all.
Only one so far had to place her husband in memory care while the others opted to keep their husbands home, as eventually this too shall pass or they will.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this, as dementia really sucks!!!
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I haven’t faced your heartbreaking situation. From those I’ve known with dementia the confusion and delusions are ever evolving and changing focus. I would doubt a ceremony would plant anything lasting in his mind and might just be a painful reminder of what is lost for you. I think I might just roll with the two sides of who you are to him, and prepare mentally as much as is possible for what may come next. I’m sorry for you both and truly wish you peace
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No. I really wouldn't join in the game around this. There is no way to change his mind until this particular obsessive delusion lets go. It is sadly just a part of it all. I am so sorry. Just smile at him and ask "Don't you like me better as a girlfriend?" I am kidding there; I am certain he must be distraught about this, and you as well, but there is little to cure every little thing that comes around. Just answer the truth and attempt to deflect it all as well as you're able.
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I would probably go along with the vow renewal even if he doesn’t see it that way.
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MindyDink Feb 21, 2025
That’s one thought I’ve had.
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