Should I block porn sites on my 89 year old husband’s device?

If he has not been diagnosed with dementia, how can you successfully block your husband from a teen porno website? He'll just find another and another to log onto.

If he's exhibiting signs of dementia, get him to the doctor for a full medical and cognitive exam.

I can see why this is very disturbing. I wonder if he could have frontal temporal dementia? It often presents with sexualized behavior as one of the symptoms and it is not much like what we think of as dementia. I would get him evaluated.

In the meantime, perhaps you might go back to pretending not to know about this and maybe just actually DON'T look. I assume this is out of character for him and if so, realize that this may no longer be "him" but a sign something is wrong with his brain.

So sorry you are dealing with this difficult situation. Best of luck.

This rings alarm bells for me. I am not against adults enjoying themselves in private without hurting anyone, BUT..

The sites your DH are watching can be 'gateway' sites. In the gate, ready to be herded to money making sites. Teen (or other) may be lures for easy blackmail making money.

From what I've read, just like much online content, *suggestions* will be made: 'You may like this?'.

Heck I once looked at mocassin slippers on sale & was bombarded for years for adds for them (until I got an ad blocker).

I looked at wooly slippers, got herded to wooly socks, then fur socks & before I knew it was looking at possum fur socks in New Zealand! (Just $40 or so a pair, just a click away)

I'd be VERY carefully looking at the bank statements, looking at any unusual spending on joint accounts.

Try an open an honest discussioon on online spending, the dangers of getting carried away, taken advantage of etc.

Are there other alarm bells? To behaviour or mood?

Memory problems are not the only sign of changes of concern.

His device would mysteriously be lost or broken. That whole teen porn thing even when they are really 18 is just appealing to closet pedos in my opinion. I can't believe at 89 he still wants to get it on and gets it up honestly. Not enough aches and pains in his old age to keep his member down I suppose.

The problem may not be the porn site but what may also be on the porn site that he could intentionally or inadvertently click on... and download or purchase. I know a senior who actually did time in prison (18 months) for downloading files that turned out to show minors. They looked "old enough" but weren't. I doubt they'd send someone with dementia to prison or even fine him but who needs the stress of being caught up in that mess?. There could other financial predators lurking on that site or trying to message him, too. I'd lose the device...

Again if all he is doing is looking on a porn site that’s as easy to get to as this one, it’s highly unlikely that he’s looking at anyone under 18.

You don’t want him interacting with anyone through said sites though.

I can only answer if I was in your shoes and it was my husband. It would be blocked today

I agree with Lea that if he has no dementia you have little ability, let alone right to interfere with him.

However, child porn will get him a STIFF SENTENCE in the slammer if his computer gets taken and he is convicted. If this crosses state lines we are talking federal and FBI stuff here. They could be at your door any second
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What I fail to understand is your not speaking with him about this AT ONCE?

I’ve walked in on dh watching pornhub and to me it’s like when we found dads penthouse collection as kids. I established that he’s not downloading anything or interacting with their ads.

OP, go to Google and type in "watching porn dementia " and you won't believe what comes up! Tons of chat and forum questions and discussions, talks about frontotemporal dementia (FTD) and porno, lots of things. If this is new behavior especially, I'd be highly suspicious of dementia myself. Look at his browser history to see how long he's been viewing this stuff.

Here is a list of symptoms of FT Dementia

Behavior and/or dramatic personality changes, such as swearing, stealing, increased interest in sex, or a deterioration in personal hygiene habits
Socially inappropriate, impulsive, or repetitive behaviors
Impaired judgment
Apathy
Lack of empathy
Decreased self awareness
Loss of interest in normal daily activities
Emotional withdrawal from others
Loss of energy and motivation
Inability to use or understand language; this may include difficulty naming objects, expressing words, or understanding the meanings of words
Hesitation when speaking
Less frequent speech
Distractibility
Trouble planning and organizing
Frequent mood changes

FTD is difficult to diagnose and often goes undiagnosed.

Here is a link to the whole article:

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/dementia/frontotemporal-dementia