At least that's what I think this is, I've read some other posts in here that it's common with ALZ. Mom doesn't have ALZ that I know of, but she does do the following me around thing. I posted about my 56 year old mom a few days ago. It's a complicated mess. I'm her guardian and she lives with me at the moment, but am trying to set up home care or AL for her. I guess I just need to vent. She copies everything I do. If I make myself a sandwich or something, she sits and stares at me eat, then will go and make herself one, even if she just ate 30 minutes ago (and she is insulin dependent diabetic!) She can prepare food in the microwave, that type of thing, and I do cook too. If I get up, she usually follows me, even to the kitchen, and stands over my shoulder while I'm doing laundry. She also wants to borrow my clothes, even though she has her own, and I usually tell her no because I never know when I'll get them back. If one of my kids has a headache, etc, she does too, that kind of thing. It's like this from the time I get up until I go to bed. I can only nap when my 20 month old is napping, and have to go in my room and lock the door. Mom has always been clingy, and when I was a teenager and in my 20s always wanted to hang out with me and my friends, but she did have a life of her own too. Now she doesn't because she's basically a hermit due to her increasing anxiety. She's been treated for mental illness (paranoid schizophrenia), but neurologist is trying to see if she might have Parkinson's as well. I'm not trying to be a martyr, I just needed to let off steam so I don't pull my hair out. I know I signed up for this (God help me!) and hubs, kids and I are trying to make do until we can get some other care arrangements in place. I really don't have anywhere else to go during the day because my little one is with me too and I have to look after her, plus I just don't have a lot of energy left, or I would hire someone to sit with her for a few hours whIle my little and I went to the zoo or something. I am so glad for this forum. You guys get it, and I'd rather gripe here than be snappy at mom.