Is there service for incontinent patients where you can call and have them come to your home to clean up the patient, pretty much at a minutes' notice?

Incontinence is a huge problem, that needs a great deal of compassion all around. While I finally did stop gagging, I never really got used to fecal incontinence and was very gratefull when, in her final year, I could time caregivers to mostly be here when she was more likely to have a bowel movement.

PCVS: Wow! That has to be miracle to time it right when she's got to go. Soiling for elders is graciously non existent TO THEM because they have lost their olfactory sense.

Llamalover, this only worked because she had both hospice and medicaid paid CNAs during those times. Occasionally it did fall to me but not every single day.

I know how the cleanup can be. I went through cleaning urine a lot when mom was living. She didn't have problems with number 2 at the house because she didn't become incontinent with both until after she went to the hospital that day and was bedridden until she passed at different facilities. Dad has had a few accidents with both and sometimes he would take off his pants and throw them in the laundry basket without telling me. He does wear depends but he has lost so much weight that they tend to slide down therefore the accidents will happen. Especially when he wets himself. I do have a weak stomach and I have struggled with the gag reflex because it is a chore to be dealt with but I will not have a filthy house or will I let dad sit in filth. I bought pull-ups Goodnights last time I went to Walmart and I am going to try those on him. I keep Clorox and I have a urine remover and carpet and upholstery cleaner. I also found that a powder like shower to shower really absorbs the smell and stains from clothes, carpet, etc. Dad also has a pee bottle that he keeps close to his bed and luckily he does still have the mind there to be able to use it. The one thing that keeps him to remember that he may need to go to the bathroom is that I constantly ask, Now if a person is bedridden, adult diapers and thick under pads can be used. When Mom was too weak to turn in bed anymore the thick under pads were folded between her legs and could easily be changed. It's a tough job and it's not easy getting used to but there are a lot of caregivers in the world that have this task.

PCVS: I cleaned the bathroom floor, toilet, entire house EVERY NIGHT and it was all undone by my late mother the next morning. Mother demanded to live alone in her own home. Huh? No dice when I found her blood pressure was running 60/40. I had to leave my home and move in with her 400 miles away! Many times I would see her underpants drying on the bathroom towel rack! I said "what's with the underpants being handwashed by you?" Her response="oh, nothing." Really? Give me a break! Do you think she waited too long to get to the toilet? OF COURSE SHE DID! ARGH! So very unpleasant to see poop on the toilet and bathroom floor EVERY MORNING!

One more thing-elders don't have the strength to wash their bodies well. If they have a shower seat in their shower stall, guess what DOESN'T GET WASHED? You guessed it-the derriere! Ooh-just about knocked me over when I escorted my mother to the toilet. I actually had to stop!