I to have a pushy sister but she has a DPOA. She is very adamint that I can not do for my mom. Thank god mom is in residential care now and doing very well. A week ago they had meeting to tell how mom is doing and to see if we have questions. I was not notified but found out about it so addressed my sister and she claimed the meeting was for her not me. Well I just told her I had every right to go because she was also my mom. I went against her wishes and found that it was for the family. I only found out because they sent a copy of the notice to moms room and mom asked me to read it.
Sis and I have never thought on the same level and it was aways a struggle to care for mom because she was of little assistance and for the most part I did most of the in home care. When the Dr told mom it was time for the nursing home she agreed and we started steps to get her into the one she wanted.
Sis was in denial and said we needed to take care of her at home so I went forward and did the looking myself. After having sis on my case for a month she said I will take care of the rest because I have POA. Well she dragged her feet but about 3 months later mom signed herself it as they did have a bed where she wanted to go. Now sis is so shut mouth about everything I have to did for facts on what is going on. I have finally talked to the adminastrater and asked them to notify me when there are meeting about mom etc. Can she do anything to stop me at this point.