My 86 yr. old mother has Dementia but his highly functional. She does need prompting to brush her teeth, shower etc. Mom lived alone in her own home until 8 mo ago when she got so weak from not eating and not taking care of herself. My husband and I moved her into our home and she was put on hospice. Since then she has graduated and is physically doing well.
I'm considering putting her in a very nice assisted living facility for approximately 10 days to give us a much needed break. (My sister only lives a block away and refuses to help at all and we are no longer speaking ) I'm also considering have her stay permanently since I really don’t think we can do this much longer without any help.
My question is if I bring her back home here after how will that mess with her mind? I will need to take her back every couples months after for another break. Would I be better off just taking the plunge and setting her up permanently while she can still go to AL. I think she would actually like the company of other people etc. but I’m having a horrible time letting go and am worried sick she won’t do well. Any idea how long it will take her to adapt? She currently thinks my house is hers. She can well afford the AL so that is not an issue. Please help me with this really tough decision. Thanks so much.