A little background first, the person in need of assisted living is an 83-year-old male who has an offense from the 70's which is what put him on the sex offender registry. He has multiple conditions impeding his movement, can no longer prepare meals, or maintain compliancy on his meds. I am not related to the person I'm searching care for, but he simply does have nobody except his even older sister, which is my neighbor who reached out to me explaining his dire needs. Currently he resides in Broward, FL within a "fend for yourself" group home and I have done most things for him and called possibly 50 places over the last few months since his condition deteriorated even further. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, I am desperate. I can't guarantee my wife and I will live in the county over much longer. With all that said, I am reaching out with a prayer that someone, somewhere knowns a resource that would aid in finding him assisted living. He has family in Texas and Oklahoma, or he could stay in Florida, but at this point anywhere he can get the okay for, he will go since is quite literally may be life or death. If he's left to continue his life without support. Any help or guidance to the right direction for what I am seeking would be huge. This and an email I sent to DCF's adult protection services is my "Hail Mary" so to speak in trying to help him further with this goal. I know it may be asking a lot... but I will answer any questions in stride for this, thank you.
This news story verifies that Florida facilities can say no to RSOs. And really, most are.
Florida has a few mobile home parks that rent to RSOs including senior only communities. The younger RSOs tend to the older ones and perhaps some may receive ihss money for doing so.
Sometimes you just have to say, I have done all I can. He does seem to have people. You may not think they are trying hard enough but he has shelter and food. He gets Medicare and probably Medicaid. His felony maybe 50 years ago but it will follow him the rest of his life.
The group home will send him to the hospital under a 'Social Admit' if he's too ill to remain there. The hospital will admit him and find a nursing home to put him in.
What kind of sex offender is he? A rapist? A child molester? The 1970's had far more relaxed laws on sex offenders than today does. So this guy really had to have done something. The kind of sex offender he is makes a difference. If he's a child molester he can't be living within a certain distance of a school. So placement of him could be different. From what you say he's too far gone to be in assisted living and needs to be in a nursing home. I'm assuming he's also on Medicaid and they don't pay for an assisted living. They pay for a nursing home.
Where I live there is an agency that buys up houses in our township. These houses are for people that are basically homeless. There is no overseeing in these houses were there is someone there 24/7 to make sure if they take meds, get to work, eat what they are suppose to, etc. Depending on how many bedrooms are in the house, is how many residents there are. The living room and kitchen are common areas. Its like living in a dorm. There maybe a social worker who checks up on them? If so, this social worker should have been helping this man.
If this guy is in a group home, he has a social worker or at least a case worker with the state. That person is who makes sure the group home gets paid. They handle getting him placed.
It really is that simple.
You chose to be involved in his care and can no longer do so.
You seem from your note to us, aware or all entities involved. The family is your neighbor. You have APS contact. And you know where he lives in his group home.
Wishing you the best going forward. The state may need to step in and take on care here.
Few ALs even take Medicaid and even fewer take RSOs. The best thing that can happen is that he stays where he is until leaving with some undeniable medical crisis that gets him hospital admission and then snf for life. It’s better than experiencing homelessness.
Regarding yourself, as the saying goes, this is not your circus and these are not your monkeys. You aren’t family. You are neighbors soon to be leaving the country, but you called 50 facilities on his behalf. As you found, options for this man are limited, and whatever does happen with him is beyond your control.
That is exactly what has to happen. He has a caseworker or social worker. The group home sends him to the hospital and the hospital finds him a nursing home who will take him. At 83 and sick, he won't end up homeless on the street. The hospital will get him placed in a nursing home.
Does he receive financial assistance from the state? If so, he should also have access to a social worker, who should be able to give him some assistance.
If he is truly so ill, the home can send him to the hospital, and he can receive end of life care there. Or the group home can contact local hospice and ask them for advice.
How is it you came to be the point person on this? Because you say on one hand he has nobody except an older sister, but you then say he has family in Texas and Oklahoma. Regardless of his criminal history, this is really something his family should be taking on, not a well-meaning neighbor. Be very careful not to get dragged so far into this that it consumes you, and please don't change your living arrangement plans for him.
You could also try the County Agency of Aging to get a social worker involved to take this off of your plate .