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A little background first, the person in need of assisted living is an 83-year-old male who has an offense from the 70's which is what put him on the sex offender registry. He has multiple conditions impeding his movement, can no longer prepare meals, or maintain compliancy on his meds. I am not related to the person I'm searching care for, but he simply does have nobody except his even older sister, which is my neighbor who reached out to me explaining his dire needs. Currently he resides in Broward, FL within a "fend for yourself" group home and I have done most things for him and called possibly 50 places over the last few months since his condition deteriorated even further. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, I am desperate. I can't guarantee my wife and I will live in the county over much longer. With all that said, I am reaching out with a prayer that someone, somewhere knowns a resource that would aid in finding him assisted living. He has family in Texas and Oklahoma, or he could stay in Florida, but at this point anywhere he can get the okay for, he will go since is quite literally may be life or death. If he's left to continue his life without support. Any help or guidance to the right direction for what I am seeking would be huge. This and an email I sent to DCF's adult protection services is my "Hail Mary" so to speak in trying to help him further with this goal. I know it may be asking a lot... but I will answer any questions in stride for this, thank you.

Curious, there is no need for you to feel desperate. This is not your responsibility. It was kind of you to try to help your neighbor with her brother's case, but you've reached the end, and enough is enough. There are frail elderly women in senior facilities who deserve to be free from the possibility of assault from another resident. Maybe that's an unfair assessment of him, but maybe not. Just let things be. Is there a reason your neighbor, his sister, doesn't have him come and live with her? Whatever those reasons are, probably apply elsewhere too.
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Read this https://www.wtsp.com/article/news/regional/florida/floridas-sex-offenders-are-getting-older-but-nursing-homes-dont-want-them/67-3523a40b-03a3-4a55-8b62-3872a75cf74f

This news story verifies that Florida facilities can say no to RSOs. And really, most are.

Florida has a few mobile home parks that rent to RSOs including senior only communities. The younger RSOs tend to the older ones and perhaps some may receive ihss money for doing so.
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PeggySue2020 Sep 20, 2025
Joann, you can’t claim unsafe discharge without an admit. They won’t admit him or anyone because he feeds himself microwave burritos or walks around only in the apartment or doesn’t take his meds
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You need to tell him and his neighbor that you have done everything you can. Looks like the social worker has done the best they can. Where he is maybe the best place he can be. If he goes into the hospital, he needs to claim unsafe discharge. He needs to tell the social worker there that he can't get the care he needs in the group home he is at. His next move may be Longterm care with Medicaid paying. He can't be on his own with his health problems. Assisted livings do not care for people, they assist and they are expensive, not covered by Medicaid.

Sometimes you just have to say, I have done all I can. He does seem to have people. You may not think they are trying hard enough but he has shelter and food. He gets Medicare and probably Medicaid. His felony maybe 50 years ago but it will follow him the rest of his life.
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This is not a social services website. If he's living in a group home, he has a state social worker or case worker and that person is who makes sure the group home gets paid for his shelter and food. This the person who is responsible for him, not you.

The group home will send him to the hospital under a 'Social Admit' if he's too ill to remain there. The hospital will admit him and find a nursing home to put him in.

What kind of sex offender is he? A rapist? A child molester? The 1970's had far more relaxed laws on sex offenders than today does. So this guy really had to have done something. The kind of sex offender he is makes a difference. If he's a child molester he can't be living within a certain distance of a school. So placement of him could be different. From what you say he's too far gone to be in assisted living and needs to be in a nursing home. I'm assuming he's also on Medicaid and they don't pay for an assisted living. They pay for a nursing home.
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CuriousCat00 Sep 19, 2025
I emailed DCF, APS to get him another social worker but currently where he lives is self-paid by him. I set up autopay for his monthly rent to come out, which is $800. He does has a social worker through his insurance (she sets up his doctor appointments and I informed her of his living needs) but whenever I speak to her, she says that basically nobody wants him to live in their living facility and implies there's nothing more she can do. I looked him up on the sex offender registry and the charge is sexual battery. It is looking like I am going to have to tell him to get comfortable and wait next time he goes to the hospital, to voice his fear of going back home. For whatever reason they always discharge him back to his place from the hospital when he goes there, they don't seem too concerned for him to go back to his place, thankyou for your input, i appreciate it.
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Yes, time for APS and you walk away. Give them his childrens phone#. My mantra "I am here to help people find a way, not be the way". APS should have been called day one.

Where I live there is an agency that buys up houses in our township. These houses are for people that are basically homeless. There is no overseeing in these houses were there is someone there 24/7 to make sure if they take meds, get to work, eat what they are suppose to, etc. Depending on how many bedrooms are in the house, is how many residents there are. The living room and kitchen are common areas. Its like living in a dorm. There maybe a social worker who checks up on them? If so, this social worker should have been helping this man.
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BurntCaregiver Sep 19, 2025
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If this guy is in a group home, he has a social worker or at least a case worker with the state. That person is who makes sure the group home gets paid. They handle getting him placed.
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It is time to give notification to family, to the social workers involved in his housing situation, and to Adult Protective services that you can no longer be involved in his care.
It really is that simple.
You chose to be involved in his care and can no longer do so.
You seem from your note to us, aware or all entities involved. The family is your neighbor. You have APS contact. And you know where he lives in his group home.

Wishing you the best going forward. The state may need to step in and take on care here.
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CuriousCat00 Sep 19, 2025
Your right, thank you
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Have you tried reporting him to APS as a vulnerable adult? I think the only option is for him to get a court-assigned legal guardian who will then get him into a facility, Help from the government may be his only solution. Does he have a case worker?
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CuriousCat00 Sep 19, 2025
I emailed APS a few days ago. He has a social worker, but it's through his insurance so I am realizing she was just doing mostly her job of setting up health care appointments since she's told me no one wants him to live at their facility so it's best to keep things as they are. She speaks as if she has called everywhere possible, but I am thinking she has not.
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The fact that Florida has set him up with a place to live is more than what typically happens with RSOs, which is homelessness. The staff where he is at least will notice whether he is missing or in need of immediate medical attention. His sister meanwhile can Amazon him a case of Ensure or a door dash card.

Few ALs even take Medicaid and even fewer take RSOs. The best thing that can happen is that he stays where he is until leaving with some undeniable medical crisis that gets him hospital admission and then snf for life. It’s better than experiencing homelessness.

Regarding yourself, as the saying goes, this is not your circus and these are not your monkeys. You aren’t family. You are neighbors soon to be leaving the country, but you called 50 facilities on his behalf. As you found, options for this man are limited, and whatever does happen with him is beyond your control.
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BurntCaregiver Sep 19, 2025
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That is exactly what has to happen. He has a caseworker or social worker. The group home sends him to the hospital and the hospital finds him a nursing home who will take him. At 83 and sick, he won't end up homeless on the street. The hospital will get him placed in a nursing home.
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If he is a veteran, call the VA.
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CuriousCat00 Sep 18, 2025
he's not, thankyou though
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If he has "multiple conditions impeding his movement, can no longer prepare meals, or maintain compliancy on his meds" then he is not a candidate for assisted living. In fact, he is probably getting more assistance in the group home he is currently residing in than he would get in assisted living. And the group home ought to be able to provide some sort of guidance for him if he's as ill as you say he is; at the very least they ought to be able to provide him with the names of the agencies that can help him.

Does he receive financial assistance from the state? If so, he should also have access to a social worker, who should be able to give him some assistance.

If he is truly so ill, the home can send him to the hospital, and he can receive end of life care there. Or the group home can contact local hospice and ask them for advice.

How is it you came to be the point person on this? Because you say on one hand he has nobody except an older sister, but you then say he has family in Texas and Oklahoma. Regardless of his criminal history, this is really something his family should be taking on, not a well-meaning neighbor. Be very careful not to get dragged so far into this that it consumes you, and please don't change your living arrangement plans for him.
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CuriousCat00 Sep 18, 2025
I do not know his exact backstory to be honest. I have spoken to both of his kids once each, somewhat recently and they are not providing help regarding getting him in a home or supporting him financially to get him into a home. As far as the group home goes it's a company that rents apartments to felons with nowhere to live. 5 people live between 2 rooms in bunkbeds. There is minimal oversight, is pretty much like if you were a normal tenant renting in an apartment complex. So they don't care about anything besides getting their monthly rent. Currently he is just noncompliant with meds, lives off microwaving a meal or two each day and his mobility is limited by a distance of about getting around the small apartment. I do thank you for your kind words, I do feel suffocated by how much he needs of me and it is why I am desperate to get him somewhere he can have food prepared for him most importantly, as he has lost weight noticeably since I met him.
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APS is the right thing to do .
You could also try the County Agency of Aging to get a social worker involved to take this off of your plate .
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CuriousCat00 Sep 18, 2025
Thank you for your reply, I probably should of mentioned this in the main post but I did apply and got him approved for LTC insurance through medicare (or medicaid, I dont know the difference) there is a social worker working on his case but it's been 4-5 months and she says every time I speak with her it's just too much restrictions that nobody wants him to live in their living facilities because of his history.
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