I'm looking for panties for my mother who is beginning to experience urinary incontinence. Thus far, we have been using Depends Night Defense with Overnight Absorbency in the large size, but they don't seen large enough. She finds that they chafe around the leg opening, and it is causing a sore in her groin area. I'm very concerned, and would like to find something as quickly as possible. Does anyone know of a good soft panty with a built-in absorbent pad like Depends, but in a large size which does not have a chafing elastic band around the leg opening? I'd appreciate your help!