I'm not saying this is a new trajectory, I'm not that naive. But I worry she's going to complain now and this past week she's not had issues getting into or out of bed I know this is the right thing to do but deep down i feel like no matter what I do , I'll get blamed
If your Mom has dementia, it doesn't matter that she blames you - her brain is broken. If she was that type of person prior to aging decline, she will most likely be more of that. Be confident that you are running the show and not her. Don't care if she blames you. Ask yourself why does that even matter if you know you didn't earn it?
May you receive clarity and peace in your heart.
A hospital bed can make her more comfortable and make it easier on the caregiver.
Make sure you have a good, quality, comfortable mattress. The mattress alone is pretty expensive!
I hope you are choosing a model which raises and lowers. You can set it to the level that is easiest for her to sit on the edge and get in and out of.
When she needs personal cares, the bed can be raised to a comfortable level for the caregiver to avoid back strain.
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Best of luck.
priority. Hospital beds can
make a big difference. Whatever you do, know that what you are doing is hard and sacred. Hang in there!
You can talk to her doctor and see if he can get you a prescription to have a hospital bed preferably with half rail or if she’s towards end of life hospice they will supply one for her comfort. If none above then just call one of the companies and rent one yourself. It comes complete bed raises up and down as well and feet and head. From experience I would buy a nice bed topper for your Mothers comfort.
Caregivers are there to make sure they are clean, safe and have all their needs met, sounds like you a doing just that. Lots of times they will not agree with you, but your doing what is best for all.
In the long run, a bed that changed positions helped my parents in their early 90s, as they continued to decline steadily.
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