Recently took 99+ alert father to elder law atty to update POA's and will as his atty had died. Had explained to atty my concerns that as I am only in-state child and caregiving issues are falling to me (escorting to MD appts/procedures, bill paying, some cooking, cleaning, advocacy efforts, communication assistance etc) that while I was more than willing to do this out of love, decency etc, I was concerned about being able to stay put in home I have known and lived in almost my entire life (I am single age 60+, low pay job, using sick time etc to care for elders as needed). After meeting privately with father, attny tells me that dad did not want to put house in my name. I never asked for that to happen, nor intended for that...only had concerns for wise and informed planning should my mother, age 95 with dementia, not able to sign papers, have needs beyond home caring capacity. I would do absolutely anything I could to keep both of them at home and safe...but I work in the field and know sometimes situations develop beyond our control. This issue has not been openly discussed...but as it stands with the estate to be evenly divided, it concerns me that I could be forced out of the house in which I wish to remain, and feel, since I am doing all I can for them (out of state sibling does virtually nothing), I should at least have some sense of security in knowing I can stay put, with the understanding that I would turn the home over to my sister if I predecease her. Per atty, dad is in charge of mom's decisions; should he pass before her, than I would have to go through probate and become mom's guardian. I am to be executor of dad's estate. Communication is difficult on many levels. Sibling may convey one thing, but not hesitate to do what is necessarily to get the financial gains when the time comes. To document and charge for the care I provide is just abhorrent to me. These people have given of themselves to support me, and I believe family should be there for each other. Any guidance would be appreciated. It seems my good efforts have backfired perhaps as it seems this attny being paid for by dad is there to be his advocate and she doesn't seem to have enlightened him on things he may want to consider, taking in the big picture. Or am I missing something??