I am tired of smoothing things over w/dad because of son who wants no part of his day to day care. Since mom's death, I have looked after dad. We only live 1 mile apart, I am oldest (58) & only daughter. Brother “A” comes with his wife regularly on weekends to assist with household repairs while Brother “B” and his wife are too busy living their lives, traveling, entertaining friends at their cottage, and partying every chance they get. I take dad to all his appointments, pay his bills, manage his pills, do his laundry, drive him anywhere he needs to go since he lost his license, take him grocery shopping, prepare special low sodium meals for him. When asked to help, sister in law says it is impossible for my brother “B” & he has “shut down” NOW on dad to make it easier on himself when dad is gone! WTF? He’s made it clear, dad is a burden ...... How do dad and I reconcile with this? Help please.
Also, I have MS (relapsing remitting) and life is getting harder for me. Could really use some assistance after going it alone for almost nine years. Is it right for two children to do everything, while one (“B”) does nothing? Please help me understand. Thank you