Yet another day where I'm spending precious work time (I've missed several deadlines already) worrying about Daddy. ...So, it appears that the ALF nickling and diming has reached an EPIC proportion, and I can't afford it anymore. I initially thought that the exorbitant rent covered everything. My Dad is really only at the facility during the day 4 days a week. He goes to an Adult Day Center 3 days and only has breakfast and dinner at the ALF. The Adult Day Center bathes him so we don't need that service, and he honestly only eats a bowl of soup in the evenings for dinner. On weekends, I bring him food. Dad still dresses himself, so the only services he's using are Med Techs for medicine, assistance with oxygen and the safety of the facility. I typed all that to try to justify the extra $534 they now want to charge for "Personal Service" I currently work a second job to cover the difference between Dad's expenses and income, but I don't think I can do it much longer. Working more isn't an option, and I can't even claim Dad as a dependent. Dad loves the ALF, and compared to the facilities that accept Medicaid, it's a palace. Those places were depressing. The VA facility is an hour away from me and looks "institutional". We tried putting Dad in a senior apartment with nurses coming in, but he was miserable and the nurses were awful. I don't know what to do. This may sound terrible, but I am NOT cut out for caregiving. I tried having Dad in my home and spending 3 overnights with him when he was in the apartment. It was NOT a good thing. I don't know what to do.