I know I have to arrange for two prepaid funerals as per the elder care attorney's advice. I have decided to speak to a rabbi first, one that the executive director of my parents' assisted living facility, recommended to me. I have still not heard from this rabbi, and I am encouraged that he will help/guide me but the very idea of funeral planning makes me very anxious and agitated. It is really to much for me, but I can't ask my brother because he is Chassidic and I am not. He is also oblivious about everything I have ever asked him to do.