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Pray and pray some more. When you see her, pray a halo over her head. Say stuff like this in your head, "I have favor." Say this over and over while you are there.
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Needy people = entrapment. They have a nasty habit of crawling up your ___ and rent a condo in your head. One of these days, you're going to have to have a heart-to-heart. Take the opportunity to raise the rent and explain the importance of self-reliance; particularly small matters she can take care of without making a Federal case out of it.
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She could arrange for free transportation from the senior center or pay an agency, she definately has the funds. She just prefers to take the easiest way out to do anyhting and has done so all her life. I could stay away for months and she would sit and wait until I become available. Guess the best way is to go and get it done and over with. Maybe someday she will realize you cannot use people just to get what you want in life. She cannot understand why so many peple have distance themselves from her because of her need to use them as a convenience.
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When I was in your shoes, I just held my breath and dove in. Got it over with as quickly as possible. There was little conversation because I don't like to talk when I'm driving. Always had the excuse "I have to get back to work". I took a crossword puzzle book for the waiting room. Being with her raised my blood pressure. Every once in awhile she took a "pleasant" pill so the outing was tolerable. I always prayed for those kinds. If I just could not bring myself to take her, I bribed or paid someone else to do it. It's pitiful but the stark truth.
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Can you view this as just another of life's unpleasant but necessary tasks, like doing your income tax or having a root canal or a pap smear? You don't really "prepare" yourself for those. You just do it and get it over with and get on with your real life.
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You must detach and disconnect the buttons she pushes. It takes pretending until you are not as reactive to her, and accepting you must do whatever it takes for your survival.
You know how she is and no matter how you think about it she is a problem for you. You can change your own behavior to cope with her, or get someone else to deal with her. What other options are there?
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