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that's funny, both of you guys are right - chocolate does help, they get in a better mood, but no, it won't solve everything. :-) apple juice, cranberry juice and anything with coconut is worth a try too, sometimes those are good "brain foods" and have actualy been shown to help with mood in Alz...
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LOL! i LOVE YOU vstefans!
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I use to make night time drinks for myself, hot milk with honey and nutmeg. I thought, what if I added in other foods for sleep, banana, egg. I would nod off before I could brush my teeth. I need some banana. Right now egg custard sounds good. Hmmm, do I have enough sugar?
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Back when I "needed" to go see my mthr before going to Boston, I had bought her little toys etc to placate her while we were gone. It had not worked before, so I don't know why I thought it would be useful then. Glad I mailed them.

When we took the kids to see her right before Easter, she proudly showed off the spinny colored water toy AND the toys from Boston I took her after my kids tired of thm: a colored water hourglass thingy and a pop-eyed baby dino my 6 year old drove us crazy with, popping out his eyes for an entire day in the car.

After mthr showed them off, the 6 year old started turning over the toys to make them "go", and she waved him off - "He will break my things! Get him away!" It was more than three months since we had brought the kids over last because she had verbally abused the teenager, yet she could not be sweet to those who gave her the very toys she was protecting.

Point is, NOTHING we do is going to make her any different than who she has always been. What is different is how we react to her. I don't *need* to visit anymore, I only go when I want to, and I take a witness to support me if/when she goes on the attack.
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surprise, it's interesting you take a witness on your visits. Just before my mom cut me out of her life, I had to take one of my adult kids along on visits. If they weren't available, I took a mini tape recorder in my pocket. She had started accusing me of elder abuse if I said something she didn't like. She was setting me up. I later conveyed this to my attorney and he said it happens a lot. It was an eye opener and a very sad day when I realized what she was doing.
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Sadly, I had to do the same with the tape recorder when I was in college.

Elder Abuse accusations are probably the last way these folks can attempt to control us. A witness is important for this reason alone - forgotten fall's bruises can be blamed on us, and missing/misplaced items certainly will be. But not to our faces, of course.

My witness is simply to validate my feelings about what I have let roll off my back, and congratulate me on not reacting.
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