POA has denied me access to my mother's room at the nursing center. Can this be legal?

Freqflyer Mom is right handed on the side impaired by the stroke and she's not left handed. My Mom is 88 and she has no other medical conditions other than the stroke and osteoporosis

Freqflyer my Mom has the will to live when I visit her as she looks very depressed if I am not there by her bedside and in the activity room. My Mom is in PT, OT, and Speech therapy after leaving the hospital as required, The therapist said she is improving everyday and was 25% standing without assistance at the beginning of last year. Now she is regaining use of her body, but not walking yet. I lifted her before several times but her arthritis was flaring up Christmas Day and it was difficult to put her in the wheelchair. Your father is more independent than my mother and one on one home care providers will develop her socio emotional needs that an understaffed NH can't provide. My mother wants to go home with me but the Anaheim won't let her revoke my sister's POA and sign mine. My Mom begs me to come home with me but the Social Workers will not listen to her at the private NH center. Freqflyer I have worked 20 years and I can take down my retirement after all calculation are accurate . My Mom does not need to worry about my retirement if I decide to retire. The POA appears to be invalid and signed by a notary public and my mother about 3 years after she had a stroke and could not write her left hand .

Sorry Babalou and Pam. I thought Pam was blaming me for my mother sliding down to the ground - there was no impact fall when I was with her in transport Christmas Eve and Christmas. Sorry again Pam . Please forgive me. Babalou has been advising me throughout this ordeal of my Mom losing her home. MaybGodvbless you both. I can sacrifice for my Mom as my child is an adult.

Abby said the CNAs would not help me Christmas Day and my POA sister said I didn't respect them enough.

Armyretired my POA sister and the NH still have the Holy Cross Hospital braclet on my Mom from 12/26/15 but POA took her to put a cast on her 1/15/16 saying that I fractured her leg 12/26/15 when only one person I brought helped me (my sister refused to help me Friday, Christmas with transport and the Nurse Abby said the CNAs at the NH whereas three CNAs helped me the day before at the NH. Now the POA is saying I need to be supervised to see my mother but the POA is only the agent and my Mom the principal did not approve my POA sister from prohibiting me from her room. My sister is making up an abuse case against me because she is the Appellee and she has to respond to my guardianship appellant brief appeal from circuit court by January 26, 2016.

Momlover, then I must have misread your answer the same as Pam did, that when you and a friend tried to transport your Mom that Mom re-injured a fracture, and is now in the full leg cast.

The above just show how difficult it can be to care for someone who is wheelchair bound. It takes a lot of experience which a nursing home has as it isn't their first rodeo, but it is yours.

If you have the time, spend a couple of days full-time 24-hours, if possible, with your Mom at the nursing home to see what is all required. You might be surprised.

Pam is not a troll.

I didn't drop her!

Momlover123, when you drop them, they break. When you don't tell anybody, that's abuse. No judge in his right mind will award you partial guardianship, because there is no such thing. The really bad news is that in the event the siblings cannot agree, the judge appoints an independent third party as Guardian. Will the judge let you take her home? If I were the judge I would ask "For what? So you can drop her again?"

Momlover123, I just read your profile where you have given much more information. You mentioned your Mom is in a wheelchair due to a stroke from 10 years ago, which means it could be very difficult for you, family, and friends to lift her from the bed to the wheelchair to the bathroom, etc. You and everyone else will need to learn the correct way to lift, and how to bathe a wheelchair bound person, etc.

Please note that not all elders want to age at home because they know they need a higher level of care than their grown children can provide.... plus they don't want their children to quit outside employment thus not adding to their own retirement fund.

My Dad [94] recently went into Independent Living facility where he can age in place, and he's happy as a clam being there. He actually has more freedom to do what he wants, when he wants, and be around people of his own generation. He's made more new friends in the past 5 days then in the past 10 years living in his house :)

As for the Power of Attorney, was it drawn up by an Attorney and signed by your Mom in front of the Attorney? Was it witnessed by 2 other people [or what is requested by your Mom's State] who are not part of the Will in front of a Notary? It could be your Mom didn't remember signing it as she could be in age decline where her memory might not be as sharp as it once was.

My sister refused to get transit services for my Mom with her POA because the CNAs at the center will only transport her to the end of the building, so I tried with a friend and she reinjured a fracture but one hospital said she didn't have a fracture and was severely constipated with arthritis 3 wks ago but my Mom was still in pain so she took her for a second opinion and now my Mom is in a full length leg cast and the N H and POA are making me out to me abusive. I am in Appellate ct for appeal for partial guardianship from circuit ct

Only your mother can sign a new POA assigning you the responsibility. What you want to do would require you to get guardianship of your mother. Why is your sister denying you access to seeing your mother?

Typo "POA" and "prohibited" not provided.