My mom is getting more and more paranoid every time I see her. She's been in an assisted living facility for three months. She was actually getting better tolerating the place (not that dementia gets better) but she developed a UTI and a sinus infection which she is currently being treated for. She has become "combatitive" throwing pillows at residents, hitting their chairs with her cane to get attention which ends up waking the residents who are taking a nap. She is miserable at every meal finds something to complain about to the wait staff and she's upsetting the people at her table. She has now been give Ativan to calm her down. This is only a bandage. They are talking about putting her on anti-psychotic drugs which have side effects for an 87 year old. However, it may be worth the risk if she can be leveled out and somewhat content.. She'll never be happy at the AL but at least she won't have people walking out of a room when she enters. She's not paranoid about that I've seen it. It's really sad. She thinks that people are jealous of her and her family. I try to tell her they're not however it's no use arguing with her. I just left her and am upset that I couldn't handle her today for more than 40 minutes. I was there yesterday for 6 hours. I'm so afraid that they'll kick her out. I really feel awful that I didn't stay longer. I just started "arguing" with her and told her that people weren't jealous of her and she just had to try to get along. That really upset her so I just told her that I had to go. Told her I would see her next weekend. I feel awful about this but my stomach is in knots. How do you handle this?