I live and care for my 80 year old Mother with dementia. She was showing first red flags around 74. She has been living with me now for coming up on 4 years. She was an RN and worked in elderly facilities throughout her nursing career which is why I desperately do not want to put her back in one. She functions fine by herself meaning she can bath, dress, make her own simple meals, loves her garden so she is not a total invalid that needs constant supervision. I have noticed since she has been with me a fairly regular new behavior I do not recall her having prior to her dementia. She is passive aggressive and sometimes it makes me want to lose it and sometimes I do! Example: (Mom) I am going to need to go to the store soon, not right now, but soon I will need to get a few things." (Me) " When do you want to go?" (Mom) "Oh it's not important, maybe in a few days." (Me) "OK, how about we go Thursday after you get your hair done?" (Mom) That's fine." Next day comes. Same conversation over and over until I just drop everything and take her. Anything to stop hearing about it every d*mn day until she gets her way. This happens with more than just shopping, it's everything, nothing is important but she won't quit bringing it up until she gets her way. It makes me want to scream at times. Every year I take a day and put up all her Christmas decorations and right after New Year, she takes it all down and stacks it neatly in a pile and when I tell her, I am not ready to put it all away yet, (I need my husbands help) she say's "Oh, I don't care if the pile sits there." It makes me grit my teeth because it IS passive aggressive behavior and I am a very straight forward person. I just do not remember being like this prior to her dementia, anyone else experienced this traite with dementia? How do I keep myself from getting so irritated?