Both my parents (80s) do nothing all day; TV is their only activity. Advice?

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gettting harder to watch every day one yr ago they went to dances dinners shopping a very active life style.... they both sleep 16-18 hrs a day....

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Behold your future. As long as they are safe and happy, let them be.
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helpfulone, as long as your folks are happy, let them watch TV all day. You have to remember, once someone gets into their 80's and 90's, they are plum tuckered out, they have lived a very long life. It takes them twice as long to do something around the house, even getting up out of bed and dressing.

My parents were always on the go, non-stop, but age has a way of catching up with you.... along with failing eyesight, and poor hearing.... and aching bones.

My parents would brag that they only needed 6 hours of sleep at night.... but they failed to add into that amount the time they napped after breakfast.... the time they napped after lunch, and again before dinner.... then that nap during the evening news, etc. I bet it added up to 10-12 hours. I knew because every time I dropped by their house, I found them zoned out in the living room :)

I will be 70 this year, and guess what? I find myself dozing after lunch and I miss half of the Dr. Phil shows at 4pm because I fall asleep... and don't get me started about the evening news. I even dozed off turning a Republican Debate !!! It will happen to you, too :P
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This bunny is high on a hill and hibernating. I'm not fond of TV, but I do enjoy watching people with bald tires trying to get up the Niagara Escarpment. I can see a mile down the road, steep and curved. I saw a truck descending the curve hit the brakes and actually pick up speed. I held my breath until he got control back.
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Pull those long ears down over your eyes Pam, It's bad for your blood pressure watching such excitement.
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I know you are the Energizer Bunny Pam but you also realize that being content in ones own skin has immence value.

What would people rather have a set of 80+ parents who are content to do nothing all day or ones that ring that little bell you so thoughtfully provided to summon you all the time.

Me I pop my head out of my shell when I really want to interact. I make a lot of plans and even assemble the pieces for projects but rarely get beyond that these days.
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My mother watches TV all day long, too. She watches the Game Show Network and INSP from the time she wakes up until the time she goes back to bed. The only time she stops watching is when we go somewhere. Is it healthy for her? No, but she is 89, so I let her do what she wants to do. The Waltons make her happy, so I am grateful for them.
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Whatever makes them somewhat content. My mom watches Property Brothers on HG. At least they're somewhat hot and makes for good dreams. Heee!

I wonder what out elders did before the invention on television. I suspect people didn't live as long as they do now. My grandma lived to 84 and I remember watching the Mary Tyler Moore show with her, but before that, I wonder. I live in a place with long winters so I can't imagine they'd be puttering around outside. Hmmm. Thank you TV for small blessings is all I can say.
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There's more to life than TV? Who knew......

But seriously, this is much like my 80s parents, but the 16 hours sleeping seems a little much. Checked the meds lately?
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My parents loved watching TV, one day they messed up the cable, and thought the broke their big screen......I had to run over. If your mobility is limited, I see no harm in TV. My dad even worked out and read the paper daily, but that still leaves another 10 to 12 hours to fill. Mom is sedentary, regardless of TV. Watching the news also gave dad something to talk about....the latest local government scandal, baseball, and international elections....I think this kept his mind active. He even enjoyed commercials! Things are bad when they have no interests!
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Thank God for TV!!! My FIL also watches television from morning till bed time, and we would have to6beg him to go out, as he been there and done that, and states that he is content doing exactly that. So, OK! Enjoy your day, and let us know if you need anything, which he does, as he just loves to send my husband on errands nearly every single day! Mostly to pick up bags and bags of Chetos! Chetos, he must go through about 6 a week! Eeeuuueee! They are disgusting! When he initially moved in 12 years ago, he said go on with your own lives, don't worry about me, but now he gets extremely nervous if we leave him for more than 2 hours. For the first 4 or so years, we used to take up to one week vacations, but now we haven't had a vacation in 7 or so years. Respite is looking real good about now, and I am going to figure out a way to do so, and he will ve paying to stay in respite care, but doesn't know it yet. If I were to tell him, he would flip out, and be anxious and stressed every day. He still seems to think that he could stay here on his own, but as he is such a serious fall risk, with diabetic neuropathy, that can no longer happen. He will argue to the death with me about it though, and thats an argument he can not w8n,and I can not deal with! We'll see!
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