I have said no to this. I am the caregiver for my parents,taking care of all their finances, their home. They are i Assisted Living now..but still I am the caregiver. I have only 1 brother. He has distanced himself big time. He could drive down and visit--only a 6 hour dirive, but he is "to busy with his work and family" So it is just me and I do it with a happy heart for my parents. My parents are coming into a little bit of a settlement..about 10,000 and they want me to have it. My brother knows about this settlement and I do not want to make "waves" with him. He basically has done very very little for them. Should I take the money..what I will do is just hold it in case my parents need it. I do not want to spend their money on myself. But I do not want my brother to get it either. He was always a good brother until my parents went down hill fast due to a car accident--not their fault. He has distanced himself and only calls them 1 or 2 times a month.. I am thankful they are in a good Assisted Living ( yes..I found the place and got them there) But I do everything else. I have the POA on all their accounts. I ask him for help to call the lawyers, but he never does it..It is my responsibility. I just cannot understand him at all at these times. He only lives a 6 hour drive away...When OUR parents had the car accident and in the hospital..He never came...then he went on a beach vacation with his family. He says..I have the parents and he has the kids. ( I am divorced and never had children of my own..2 misscarriages, but no living children) He seems to be mean to me these days. I just let it roll off my back and pay him no mind at all. I am in good counseling now too and she says the same thing..Let it go with your brother...but she does think I should take the money my parents are offering as it is their way of saying "Thank you" when they are still alive. It is a shame what happens to sibblings at the time of crisis. I guess you find out the true colors.