Mom is 92, in her right mind, but bedridden due to quitting her PT and now has bedsores and catheter. She's in a quality NH and we admire and appreciate the staff, but she won't leave her room so when we are visiting we have to stay in her room and she won't engage much. It's agonizing. Should we go often and stay for 5 minutes or should we go once a week and stay for a couple of hours. We are not accustomed to "talking about our feelings" in our family, so it's unimaginable for me to even ask Mom what she wants. It would be so much easier if she would say. It's just hurtful to see her be kinder to people she barely knows than us kids. I know that sounds selfish................(by the way, this is not a new way of being treated, she's always been like this, but we could overlook it easier than when we are "trapped" in her room with her for what seems like excruciating visits. I feel like a horrible child as I even write this question.