We have a day-time caregiver that works from 8-4 for my parents but we need someone to stay all night. What are our options?

the issue I have is a single elderly parent who needs overnight care and there isnt money out of pocket to pay for a live in 54k a year!!?? no there isnt a family member to help out, no I do not want to put them in a nursing home where in a week they wont know who i am or their own name and sleep the rest of their life away. I cant live with that guilt. Please dont tell me thats not the way it is - I have talked to hundres of ppl. also I do not want to spend half my life standing in the nursing home dealing with issues amidst commodes and wailing Ive spent plenty of time is hospitals I know what ive seen. If I sound bitter please exuse me, on top of losing two relationships and one apartment and my dog I have now lost my job due to the stress of trying to be 45 and take care of an elderly parent at the same time. she deservs care she deserves to be safe and I deserve a small chance at starting a life. I have tried everything the issue is I need an overnight person and there is no help except out of pocket. I would do anything to solve this very very troubling issue which has gone far beyond tenable anymore.

You can interview homecare services in your area. Ask about late shift right away on the phone to weed out the ones that don't offer night watch.
They charge $17-20 hour. You can also place an add in the local paper or craig's list. The services often pay the aides minimum wage & keep the rest for themselves, so if you offer $10 hr or more you will get a better group of candidates.
Investigate these people thoroughly!!!! Check references & ask the hard questions during the interview. The time you spend now will make all the difference.

I agree with castoff, you may do alot better by running an ad in the paper. I am a 24/7 live in caregiver for a Alzheimer patient. I only get one day off a week, but have full room and board, meals,that I prepare,I have known this family for years, so they already knew what kind of care I would provide. But check out anyone you consider hiring. Take the time to spend time with them WITH your parents. Pay attention to how they all interact. Make sure they know how to meet the needs of your parents. Ask the hard questions, just as castoff suggested. It is unfortunate that there are not enough good paid caregivers to go around. I wish I could help more. If you have any questions about what you should ask, please feel free to contact me. I will do what I can .

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4pm to 8 am is 16 hours. First ten at $10/hr=$100. Next six at time and a half or $15/hr= $90. Plus what you pay as the employer for taxes, workers comp and unemployment insurance. Over $200 a day in addition to what you pay now. Check your state laws for domestic help--some have strict limits on what you can offset with room or board.

I have found some great caregiver aids thru contacting my local Temple. I assume the same could be done with Churches. I did also do checks on these people . Who i hired outside of agency . Id love to get some night time help . Im looking for funding for that. We pay our aids $15 an hour but she only works about 16 hours a week

I just wanted to suggest you try finding someone thru your Temple or Church . I found some very good people thru ours . I did of course do background searches on them . We pay $15 an hour and she works about 16 hours a week. Id love to get some overnight help a couple times a week .

An at home helper/one for day and the other for night. The night person can have rent free and weekends off. Your day person can have two days off during the week and food meals free/breakfast /lunch.

I agree with castoff, you may do alot better by running an ad in the paper. I am a 24/7 live in caregiver for a Alzheimer patient. I only get one day off a week, but have full room and board, meals,that I prepare,I have known this family for years, so they already knew what kind of care I would provide. But check out anyone you consider hiring. Take the time to spend time with them WITH your parents. Pay attention to how they all interact. Make sure they know how to meet the needs of your parents. Ask the hard questions, just as castoff suggested. It is unfortunate that there are not enough good paid caregivers to go around. I wish I could help more. If you have any questions about what you should ask, please feel free to contact me. I will do what I can .

debbie0903, are you asking the original poster mtidwe2? If so, that post was written back in 2010. Unfortunately, the original poster never came back on line to answer anyone's questions.