On father's day in 2015, 2 weeks after my HS graduation, my father had a stroke. Before then he had some mental issues that affected my home life. Very hard to explain as I've tried and no one seems to believe or wants to believe it would ever happen. I had a full ride to a university and I chose to go because I know thats what he would want. 2 months after starting I withdrew and went into debt because my dads girlfriend/friend/whatever told me constantly how selfish I was even though he has to be in a care facility after having heart surgery. After my dad's stroke he lost the ability to speak, has a severe mental decline, can't cook or shower on his own. and hasn't regained any speech back to this day. My father is under the care of his would be girlfriend of 10+ years, she chose to quit work and care for him because I did not want to. I've never gotten along with his GF and she has put me through a lot and streas and depression throughout my childhood. I love my father, he's the only parent I've ever known, but my childhood to a very very bad turn at one point and I'm still having problems recovering and trying not to have the memories run through my mind. Long stort short, I'm tired of dealing with her but I'm absolutely terrified at the thought of living with my father again. Just spending the night with him I'm on edge and can't sleep. I'm engaged and we live in an apartment less than 10 minutes away from them, I have a really really good job that I enjoy and see myself actually doing something at in the long run and I do see him many times every week. I'm just so lost on what to do. I thought her handling everything would solve all the problems since I have absolutely no family to fall back on but being 21 but doing it since 18, and my dad still being young at 59 almost 60, it's tough. I'm not even sure what I'm trying to ask i just need some opinions or something to put my mind at ease.