My sister and I are close in age. We live the same distance away from my father, but I do 95% of caregiving and interaction. I have accepted it. It is the right thing for me to do.
My sister and I have little contact. I find she only reaches out when she wants something. She has always been the golden child. She also seems to have some kind of disorder I can only call “extreme cheapness.” I shouldn’t say “seems”, she does. She has gotten my parents to pay for many things over the years—education, things for her children, cars, vacations, etc. She can well afford it, but why pay for something yourself when you can get someone else to? I haven’t asked my parents for anything. I can manage on my own.
I manage my father’s financial affairs. Long story short, sister is wanting to retire early and is prying to figure out what type of inheritance she may get while my father is still alive. She pressures me for information; not him (yet).
I’m really tired of this ongoing tension and her fixation on money and what she can get. She is aggressive and can become explosive when she doesn’t get what she wants (hopefully for free).
Dad has saved well and in all likelihood has enough money to last the rest of his life. She will likely inherit something. However, I’m thinking of telling her that she needn’t worry too much about having to save or contribute toward dad’s care, and if she wants to know more than that she can ask dad. This would surely be followed by a tantrum.
I guess it’s one of those cases where I love her as my sister, but I really don’t like her very much.
Thoughts? What shall I say?