Mom is fixating on dental issue. Super long story, seen 4 dentists, now back to original one. Asked me to go with her this week to check color of bridge, height of teeth and more. Now she thinks the dental receptionist may use her (mom's) insurance check for her personal vacation to Spain. Oh boy.
Her untreated OCD is making everyone frustrated and now some memory loss as well is causing arguments.
I understand I should agree more to calm her yet she says I said things I haven't said. Tried to get the neighbor to go with her to appointment because "you said you were working". Etc.
How do I support her when I disagree? If her teeth aren't PERFECT this week she is going to go berserk! (New bridge). When I say perfection isn't always an option she fires back that she isn't going to settle for less!
I need coping strategies and advice. She's a widow so my sister and I are it for support. We're trying to be "good daughters " but where do we draw the line???