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I am generally all about birthday celebrations, after all it is your day, the only one you really get! Mom passed almost 2 years ago. I don't want to even acknowledge my birthday anymore.Is that wrong? I don't want to upset anyone. Luckily this year no one is around except for my wife so I can do low key. Its not that I am depressed, I just feel weird about it. Mom always made birthdays fun, even as an adult I would get an extra card from mom just from her besides the obligatory one from both. I used to buy mom flowers on my birthday. Is this normal?

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I hardly celebrate my birthday. If Tom and I didn't go out for dinner, there'd be no celebration at all.

Wrong? Not at all. But if you're trying to make some sort of statement that your life isn't worth celebrating now that mom's gone, then I think you're missing out.
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It's not wrong or right, it's just how you feel. If you don't want to celebrate your birthday that's your choice but if not celebrating your birthday is keeping you from moving on from the death of your mom you may want to look at that a little more closely. We love our parents and we grieve their death but eventually life has to go on.
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At first I thought you meant celebrating your mom's birthday even after her death. Then I realized that you don't want to celebrate your own birthday because it's not fun without your mom. Your wife may not like hearing that. If you used to celebrate your birthday then you can find a new way to enjoy it with your wife. This country is filled with beautiful national parks, for example. I don't think your mom would want you to be sad on your birthday. Your mom gave you the gift of life. Best wishes!
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You loved mom while she was around, she knew this and it enriched her life. She would be saddened by your sadness....so please toast to your special day and your spouses and your children's . Remembrances and fond memories are for the departed, new joys and new memories are for the living. Happy Birthday!
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Maybe you could carry on a few of her fun traditions, like the extra card, with your own kids?
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Perhaps you could celebrate the day as the day your Mother came into your life. Think of the joy she felt that birth day. Every one grieves at their own pace and that is as it should be. Try to make the anniversary of your birth a reminder of her joy.
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Linda22, many times I have given my family members more than one card. Usually, I'll find one that's humorous and one that's sweet and I can't decide so I just get both of them.

That's a good suggestion.
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tg,my dad and I have birthdays a few days apart so we always celebrated together. The first few years after he passed, it was bittersweet. Now, I think of some food he'd have loved and enjoy a goodie in his memory (he loved to eat). It's ok to feel sad, then celebrate the love and joy you have in your life. And it does get easier as time passes.
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It is just as important to receive as give. Maybe you can do something to honor your mom on your birthday, like plant a flower, tree, visit a grave, etc. but a small celebration from those who love you would be nice for them too.
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It wasn't bad, I had a few things to keep me busy. My wife and I went out for diner, just chilled for the day. Went out for a cocktail later. So it was good. Low key was good this year. Some friends commented on how I got it past them this year....
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