My dad passed about 2 years ago and my mom still resides at the house. She has MS and does not drive and depends on my brother (executor of the will) and his wife for doc appointment, groceries etc. They live 5 minutes from her.
My wife and I live 50 minutes away and call and visit every other weekend. My other brother really doesn't care to help her out like me and my other brother. With all her ailments and refusing to go to a care facility, I am looking to take a job across country but feel guilty if I do so. This will put more burden onto my one brother and his wife. My mom refuses to help herself. She needs to see a psychologist but refuses. She sleeps all day and is up all night. No exercise to speak of and is over weight. She is currently in a hospital for kidney stones and will go to a rehab because she is weak.
I love my mom but how can I help her if she refuses to help herself? She is 73. She could live for another 10 years like this. Am I being selfish to move across country? Should I tell my other brother to step up and help his mom like both his brothers do? Thanks.