My teenage son is extremely hateful to me for a parental decision I made. What do I do?

2trouble, I noticed that you found my post helpful tonight. How are you doing?

it is not uncommon for a 17 yr old kid to be on the outs with his parents and in fact if your getting along too well its an indication that your being more friend than parent . dont coddle him . let him know there are humans around him with more immediate needs and the universe does not revolve around his dumb a** ..

I'm doing just okay. My husband is being a little more cooperative and he is doing a good job of monitoring his time, his questions, and tracking his school "stuff." My son got his license in September and, to my dissatisfaction, got his car in October. In September though, he needed me to drive him to school (because he didn't want to ride the bus) until he could get his car. I made my husband have "him" ask ME to for help him -- not to have my husband ask me on his behalf. So he actually had to speak to me. When it came to the car. I told my husband the car would be WITH MY APPROVAL. But when it came right down to it, while I was not ready to give in, my husband found a "great deal" and he wanted to grab it while it was still available. So, again, I was sandwiched between my son and my husband who both wanted the same thing. It's not easy to "stand your ground" when it is two against one. I have been speaking to him on a regular basis, without any feedback from him. But I am told that he will hear me and that will make a huge impact. It hasn't yet. On the other hand, my mom is getting to that stage where she thinks she's, crazy, useless and would rather not be here if she has to live this way. She has been in independent living at a local health care facility here and we had put her name on the assisted living list. Oddly enough, we got feedback from them that one may be available and we could have her in by the end of January. Again, oddly enough, this call came right after I had been there only to find her lost in one of the hallways. She was not in her apt. so I was looking for her when she was surrounded by ladies who she didn't know. It was a VERY traumatic experience for her and she is getting lately much more forgetful, frustrated and mostly scared of what's happening to her. Anyway, maybe getting her settled in a new unit will help "me" a lot. I really am lucky to have three siblings that are very helpful. One does her finances, one does her medical/medicinal affairs, and one calls her every single night before she goes to bed. They all live away from here, but can and do come up periodically to see her. But I am the local, so when needs arise, ( and that is becoming more and more often) I am on call! And that happens alot. Back to my son, I don't think any time that I could give him would be appreciated on his part. And "I" cannot make that happen without "dad's" help.

Thanks for the update, 2trouble. It sounds like things are moving in the right direction. I hope a new facility for your mom turns out to be a very good thing!