Your mother is entitled to medical confidentiality. Without her prior consent or instructions to include you among people to be kept informed, your sister may not share confidential medical information with you.
Having said that, it is natural for a daughter - daughter? - to express an interest in her mother's health; no one should find it sinister or surprising that you are asking questions. Where is your mother, what is it that you are anxious to know, how do you get on with your sister?
It also sounds as though you perhaps don't agree that your sister's POA authority is valid because of your mother's dementia diagnosis. That isn't necessarily true: a person with dementia can still be mentally well enough to create a valid power of attorney or appoint a health care proxy.
If you'd like to share more details about what's happened, forum members may have good suggestions for you.
It might be a power trip. But on the other hand: at what point do we expect not to mind if everybody knows about our stress incontinence, our fungal infection, our prolapse, our piles...
There is still such a thing as privacy, whatever age you are.
I'm afraid CountryMouse is right about confidentiality however I think it's a little ridiculous for your sister not to share information with you about your mom's health. I've never understood the power trip some people have when they become POA. When I was caring for my dad I was thrilled to share information with my brother!
Does your sister give you a reason why she's not sharing medical information with you?
you might mention to your sister, that if anything ever happened to HER. that someone would need to be a back-up. they would need to be up-to-date on her condition/medications etc.
I don't plan on not being around to the end of my moms life. but if something happens to me, my sister is next in line.
idk how much my sister pays attention to all I tell her :(
but I keep her informed about everything.
and my sister knows. to please let me know if SHE sees something in my moms health, that I may be missing(not seeing)
sometimes it takes more than one person and your sister should team up with you. and not exclude you in my opinion
Your mother is entitled to medical confidentiality. Without her prior consent or instructions to include you among people to be kept informed, your sister may not share confidential medical information with you.
Having said that, it is natural for a daughter - daughter? - to express an interest in her mother's health; no one should find it sinister or surprising that you are asking questions. Where is your mother, what is it that you are anxious to know, how do you get on with your sister?
It also sounds as though you perhaps don't agree that your sister's POA authority is valid because of your mother's dementia diagnosis. That isn't necessarily true: a person with dementia can still be mentally well enough to create a valid power of attorney or appoint a health care proxy.
If you'd like to share more details about what's happened, forum members may have good suggestions for you.
There is still such a thing as privacy, whatever age you are.
Does your sister give you a reason why she's not sharing medical information with you?
I don't plan on not being around to the end of my moms life. but if something happens to me, my sister is next in line.
idk how much my sister pays attention to all I tell her :(
but I keep her informed about everything.
and my sister knows. to please let me know if SHE sees something in my moms health, that I may be missing(not seeing)
sometimes it takes more than one person and your sister should team up with you. and not exclude you in my opinion