My siblings and 14 of their kids want to visit my 90 year old dad all at once. He can’t tolerate that much noise. How can I stop it?

Just say "No". Firmly.

I suggest a 'ZOOM REUNION'.

They are oblivious to what is good for your Dad.....only what is good for them. I wouldn't want 16 any people, visiting me all at once.

Is the visit over yet?

My dear mother in her nineties lived in a small apartment with my sister who prepared meals and generally helped out. A grand daughter brought her big dog, a Boxer to see the grandmas and stayed there over night and so did the dog.
My mother did not have the heart to say anything to her but I did. How thoughtless and insulting some relatives can be. I had to tell her not to come to my home and do not bring her animals.

I just had my 90th birthday and it was wonderful. I received flowers from three relatives and friends and cards galore. I always send cards to people, especially in these times. Let the family stay at home, write lovely cards to dad, perhaps one or two phone calls to say, "we love you" and blessings. That would be so welcome and considerate of his wishes and certainly of his health.

I would have them go see him for short talks and then have them go somewhere else to entertain themselves. He is in no position to entertain them and tell them that.

I had a similar issue with my family too. But all that talk and no one actually showed up. Lol. I said we not having visitors or allowing anyone in the house. Siblings got mad at me cursed me out blah blah blah....
My parent has ALZ. So it didnt matter to me what anybody said. Turns out 1 person came un-announced then 2 months later another family member came un-announced. I was nice and let them come in but that was it. No one went into the bedroom. Or past a few feet from the door.
Before Covid we were only allowing 2 people at a time and only 5 or 10 minutes. But not anymore.
I would suggest not to let anyone come visit at all. Find another way. There is Zoom, GoogleMeet, WhatsApp or Google Duo.
Stand your ground and keep caring for your parent.

Is it possible that the Ring Leader of this invasion is mostly just trying to get on YOUR nerves? They know how protective you are, they know your stance on vaccines, and they and the other 15 disease vectors have nothing better to do but torment you and a 90 year old person? Shame on them!

The best advice I’ve seen on this thread is to not be home. But DON’T warn them in advance.

The next time you hear from RL, reiterate the extreme inconvenience and health risks of their visit but get specifics on when they plan to arrive. Simultaneously, make plans to stay with a trusted friend or at a hotel. Then, on the visit date, don’t answer your phone. Leave a note on the door: “No one’s home. We told you not to come.”

They are staying with him no matter what? Were they invited, by him? How would this many people invite themselves to an elderly persons' house?

He said no. That's that.

Does he want to see them? If so is there some sort of alternative way to do this? How old are these children, because young children really can't control their noise level. Maybe only the over 12 or 13 yo's should be allowed to visit, if they even want to?

What does DAD want?

Savingmom,
Have any of our suggestions helped? Did Dad receive these visitors?

With the new strain of virus going around, no one should be visiting anyone unless all are vaccinated. My state is back to masks. Children will be wearing them in schools as will the teachers. Businesses are putting signs back up that masks are needed to enter.