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She had us get her a new radio be cause she thinks the same radio show is playing over and over again. She is otherwise very much aware of what is going on. She does have macular degeneration and sometimes see things that aren’t there (a purple man in her living room, etc) she understands that those visions are not real. But unfortunately she doesn’t believe that her audio processing is wrong. I know it is auditory hallucinations, and her brain filling in the gaps of missing information. But how do I get her to cope with it? We have explained that someradio shows air twice during the day, etc… right now I am going to take her to the radio station to see if they can explain it to her. Does anyone have any tips to navigate this?

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My mom, who also has intermediate stage MD, is asking for a TV. The facility said if I bring one they will put it up. I'm pretty sure it will be less than a month before mom starts getting freaked out about the TV, so I decided she will never have one again. My mom will sit with me and discuss which stocks are going up, how the recent hurricane is progressing, what new stores are opening up in town and other very rational, correct things then look me square in the eye and tell me about the music she hears that I'm too stupid to hear or the "people in her computer" that are playing poker using her internet access. Be glad your mom believes you about the purple man. There may come a day when she no longer does believe you.
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My mom is on psych meds that are helping with hallucinations and delusions. She finally believed me about some things, but today she again assured me the "people" she hears outside her window are very real. I wouldn't bother with taking her to a radio station. For my mom, the music or other auditory hallucinations seem worse when she is sick or may have missed a dose of meds. Right now she thinks she has a UTI, and she mentioned the "people talking outside the window" a lot more today. I had a liver specialist sit my mom down, show her a scan of her liver and tell her flat out she was not dying of liver disease. Mom called up her relatives and told them she was dying of liver disease. At some point you can't reach them anymore. They just "know" all of this.
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I know that often logic doesn't help - and can further/ continually complicate and frustrate situations. The person's brain (chemistry / changes) doesn't register logic. And, the person wanting to use logic doesn't get it (!)

And, yes. Some radio programs DO repeat their programming and perhaps more often than once. But, this isn't answering or helping your mom.

My initial question to you is "why is this an issue for you - with your mom." The radio programs? Perhaps you are speaking more about auditory hallucinations, as you say / understand / know what is happening.

Coping. Perhaps distractions. A massage? Redirect her attention utilizing as many of her senses as you can. I believe being present in the moment ... is huge ... and while doing a lot, it is almost doing nothing (else).

What about what are called "worry beads" (?) in some religions (?)

Anything to distract her.

Can you take her outside of her immediate environment ? To see trees ? birds ? the sunshine and the sky?

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I would just tell her that talk radio replays shows. Until you can rule it out, that likely IS what is going on.
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Jordan77: Remove said radio.
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Summer reruns just like TV.
Turn on music only not "talk" radio. then when she says it is the same thing you can say it is in a "loop". Or get her a playlist and you can select whatever you want.

I do think that you might be a tad wrong about the "otherwise very cognizant" mother.
If she is having visual and auditory hallucinations there is something else going on. I get the visual hallucinations with MD but with the auditory hallucinations it is worth getting checked.
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You get your mother to cope with this issue by removing the source of the problem.....the radio. Once it leaves her room, the problem is solved.
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I can't see any benefit from proving to her that the same program is not being played over again. Have you listened? Do you know that it's not?
If she is having auditory hallucinations, there is nothing you can do to fix it or convince her that her reality is not real.

I agree with funkygrandma59 - just play something else - like music she enjoys.

Or, take the radio away if is is bothering her and she wants to throw it away.
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Maybe try satellite radio. No commercials and 24 hour format. It is available on the internet or with Alexa.
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I know that the News radio stations repeat the same stories 3 to 4 times a day. I know I’ve heard them and I definitely don’t have dementia. They repeat the same commercials as well.

So maybe your mother’s picking up on that and it’s really confusing her.

I think it’s a very sweet thing you did taking her to the radio station. And if nothing else getting out and interacting with other people is refreshing and good. It is going the extra mile, but sometimes what the heck right?

My Mr. and Mrs. both had dementia I still took them to the beach and parked and we just sat in the mobility van and watch the sunset. You do what you can.

God bless you.
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I'm afraid I don't have an answer for you, but my mom experiences that sort of deja vous like effect, which takes multiple forms. She wants me to "fix" her TV, because it just has the same shows all the time. I can sit with her and watch a live event, and point out where it says "live" on the screen, but she doesn't care what it says, she's seen it before. She's already read all the magazines they have at the store. If I take her somewhere, she says, "I used to know someone who lived there," at places she never knew anyone. I don't try to convince her anymore, because logic doesn't work. It's difficult for me, because I'm a computer guy, and naturally a logical person. Mom's been in assisted living for about 9 months, and has settled in so that I feel things are stable for now. It's directly across the road from the end of my street, so it couldn't be a better location.
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Some stations do repeat the same songs at the same time for days.
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Two “ radios” ?
When she thinks one’s repeating , she can switch to another one . Maybe she will think they air different shows?
One radio plays music . Have the other one play audio books ?

They have special radios for Alzheimer’s, that you can set the station and she can’t change it. Maybe this radio can play a station that plays audio books. I haven’t looked at them very closely .
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Jordan77 Aug 26, 2025
Thank you, that is the exact radio she has. She also listens to audiobooks on her iPhone. I set them up for her. I do agree about the music station, maybe classical music, that way they sound similar and we can say “oh they all sound the same”… and there’s no talk radio to listen to.
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Throw away her radio. (Actually give it to someone who can use it.) No more problem.

Then she wants a new radio. You tell her you'll get her one soon. You keep telling her that. You don't do it. Sit her in front of a TV and encourage her to stay there. If she's truly not processing what she hears, at least she'll have a picture to watch.

But let's get you on the right page, okay? Mom isn't very cognizant. Mom isn't otherwise very much aware of what's going on. There's no getting her to cope with it. There is no way of explaining that she'll understand. She's going to keep coming up with weirdness and you'll run yourself ragged expecting that if you take her there or bring them to her to show/tell/explain ad infinitum, she'll understand. She will not. EVER.

This is dementia. Your world and mom's world have just been upended, never to be the same. I mention this with all sincerity and best wishes: you are the one who will have to learn to cope. Not mom. She is incapable. You are not.

I wish you luck on this hard journey. I have been on it with both mother and father, then another relative and now my husband. It's never easy. Please consider memory care for her. It's a place where she'd have 24/7 professional care, and you can be there as much as you like.
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Jordan77 Aug 26, 2025
I appreciate your time in answering. Honestly, I agree about just getting rid of the radio. I also understand that there’s no amount of explaining that will help her understand and that’s okay. She is at an assisted living facility already with her own apartment and care. When there is a greater need she can be transferred to the memory care ward (literally 10 steps away from her current room.)
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I can't believe that you honestly took your 91 year old mother to the radio station for them to try and explain to her about their programming. Just when you think you've heard it all, there's this.
Can you not just have her listen to a music station where hopefully she won't think the same song is playing over and over?
And while you say that your mother is cognizant, I am going to beg to differ, as this to me sounds like some dementia going on, and that my dear you can do nothing about, as it will only get worse.
The best thing I guess you can do is just go along with whatever she says as you will never win an argument with someone with dementia(so don't waste your time or gas going to the radio station). And you being in denial about your mother perhaps having it won't help anything in the long run either.
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LakeErie Sep 1, 2025
I am picturing someone showing up at a place of business with a 91yo nearly blind dementia patient and asking them to explain something to them.

Have to wonder who the dementia patient is in that case.
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Welcome, Jordan!

Sometimes, sudden changes in mental status are caused by Urinary Tract infections. Consider getting her tested.

What does your mom's neurologist think about this change in mental status?
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My Mom also had Wet Macular Degeneration and experienced similar things. It was explained to me as Charles Bonnet Syndrome. Link: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/charles-bonnet-syndrome/
and https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24403-charles-bonnet-syndrome

Since her mind was clear at the time, I explained this phenomena to her, and read articles to her about it on the Internet. She still had the hallucinations and strange thoughts from it, but was able to understand it was her brain's way of "entertaining" her to replace the loss of her vision. If your Mom can understand this syndrome, it is easier for her to accept and channel what's she seeing or hearing in her mind to something more positive and less concerning to her.

At one point, my Mom was able to imagine beautiful flowers climbing up a fence and she'd think of things like that.
Such a strange phenomena!
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Jordan77 Aug 26, 2025
Thanks for your response. She is able to understand the things she sees, but not what she hears. She wants to throw away her radio because she says it o my plays the same radio show all the time. We took her to the radio station just now and they explained the programming to her, and introduced her to each radio host in person, they explained that sometimes they replay shows… but as soon as she got home she turned it on, said it was the same thing she hears every single day (even thought it said todays date) …
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